Should I leave?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together now for 4 years. Just had a new baby who is now nearly 3 months old. Whilst I was pregnant I felt very alone in the whole pregnancy, his life went on as normal whilst I was struggling. Now the baby is born nothing has changed. He was great the first 2 weeks of baby being here but now I feel so disconnected from him. His life is normal and mine is groundhog day. I do all the night feeds because he works and his up early morning and have the baby all day. I struggle to talk to him now he tries talking to me and I stay silent or give him short responses, I don't know why..I just feel sad all the time. I can't tell if it's down to being postnatal as well as I have now been prescribed anti depressants and haven't been on them long enough to see any difference yet. Am I making myself worse by not communicating or is this the end? I don't know what to do.

I’m sorry you’re struggling OP. I wouldn’t make any decisions right now when you have a young baby and you’re settling onto new medication. Give that a chance to work, try to open up and communicate and see how you get on. I do think it’s a shock for first time mum’s- my daughter is 15 months now and my husband is amazing, a great partner and dad, but there is no denying that life changes for more for mum than it does for dad and that can lead to resentment if not handled properly.

Op sending you big hugs.

I am in the exact same situation in that I have a 3 month old baby and like yourself do all night feeds and majority of care with the baby while my dh life seems to go on as normal.

I do feel you need to explain how you are feeling as you partner may be happy to help more and is not aware how you are feeling. If you dont then the resentment will start to set in.