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Threesomes

36 replies

Appleday55 · 03/07/2025 13:29

Why are so many men obsessed with threesomes. I might just be chatting to a guy online for a while, and he will say "will you have a threesome with me and my friend". Eh no!

Or worse, i actually met up with a guy off o.l.d in real life. He was nice. We went on five dates and then had sex. The next day he text me and said he wants a threesome with me.

I said no. I just feel it's so ugh. Is this alot of men's fantasies these days?

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SquishedMallow · 03/07/2025 19:51

Crikeyalmighty · 03/07/2025 19:19

@SquishedMallow so much for romance eh !! I’m glad I’m not dating these days

Same !

Bittenonce · 03/07/2025 21:51

TwistedWonder · 03/07/2025 14:57

I seem to find the ones obsessed with anal. I’ve lost count of the times a man asked me about anal after about 3 messages

Sometimes I ask myself where all the contempt for men comes from - then I’ll see one of your posts 🤣. You must have some special ‘shit magnet’ properties

Jirtts · 03/07/2025 22:00

it’s not just porn that is the problem now either. It seems we can’t go a week without the TV or media promoting polyamory as the norm.

Gymbunny2025 · 03/07/2025 22:07

I suppose that if men are using OLD for hookups then to them it’s just an extension of that. It’s almost dehumanising as a pp said

GentlemanJay · 03/07/2025 22:35

Appleday55 · 03/07/2025 13:39

Yes i can see why they find it appealing.

But you don't say it to someone when you have just met them!

First date, lets go for a drink
Second date: do you want a threesome?

No I don't!

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I knew someone who went to the Harvester for a first date carvery. One Sunday lunchtime Her date the guy, suggested they go to a swinger club, that very afternoon. Off they went. Didn’t even stay long enough to have their Sunday lunch. These things can escalate quickly. lol.

TwistedWonder · 03/07/2025 22:36

Bittenonce · 03/07/2025 21:51

Sometimes I ask myself where all the contempt for men comes from - then I’ll see one of your posts 🤣. You must have some special ‘shit magnet’ properties

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I was married for 23 years and had no idea such men existed. My dating life prior to that was so normal 😂

My friends attract the same - honestly there are so many supposed mature men out there who message like Jay from The Inbetweeners.

We share our dreadful experiences in our group chat - we should do a podcast, the stories we can tell 🙈

Smithey588 · 03/07/2025 22:46

I’ve never had one and nor do they particularly interest me.

i’d far rather focus all my attention on just one pair of boobs and one fanny…😜

Interestingly, I’ve been on 3 or 4 dates over the last few years where the woman has mentioned threesomes and anal. So it’s not just men…

Imaybeoldbutstillrandy · 04/07/2025 17:28

TwistedWonder · 03/07/2025 17:57

My worst experience was a man who was quite attractive, good job, own home, articulate - a lot of green flags - who after a few days messaging said can I call you?

So I gave him my number and we had a chat on phone which went well. Next day he called again and I was aware he was making erm strange noises. Took me a second to realise he was wanking!! I hung up and he tried to call again then messaged asking if i was ok. Like he really has no idea why id put phone down on him.

Btw he was in his 50’s

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Imaybeoldbutstillrandy · 04/07/2025 17:31

Confession here. When I was <alot> younger - we talking about best part of 45 years ago. My then BF & me had a threesome. I'd never do it again. Frankly it was a lot of hard work dealing with a cock & another fanny....No never again..

Imaybeoldbutstillrandy · 04/07/2025 17:34

Imaybeoldbutstillrandy · 04/07/2025 17:31

Confession here. When I was <alot> younger - we talking about best part of 45 years ago. My then BF & me had a threesome. I'd never do it again. Frankly it was a lot of hard work dealing with a cock & another fanny....No never again..

Also I dumped the bastard because I found out that he'd had a twosome with the other girl.

Frankly he did me a favour, as although he was drop-dead gorgeous, he didn't know what 'faithful' meant. But it broke my heart at the time.

PyongyangKipperbang · 04/07/2025 22:24

Funny how they utterly recoil when you suggest a threesome with him and your friend.....Geoff.

In fact I would suggest that as a come back. "I would be interested in exploring that but would feel safer if it was one of my friends. There is one who I have always had a bit of chemistry with, we are both curious to know what it would be like but dont want to be in a relationship with each other"

Let him get all sweaty over it then....

"I spoke to Dave tonight and he is really up for it, is next weekend good for you?"

Watch him run away so fast his feet burst into flames.

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