I didnt mean to get drunk

[Hippychickbbbb]

I had been offered beers at my local social club i didn't realise how many I'd had i hadn't eaten and that affected me apparently I slurred my words a bit but that was it I wasnt sick of throwing up or falling over dd was with her dad i was coherent this was a one off I normally only have 3 or 4 i handle it quiet well

If you lost track of how many you had then you probably aren’t the best judge of your behaviour. Is there a reason why you have started this thread? I drank more than I usually do but my behaviour was normal seems a little benign for a thread.

The school have said I can't be alone with my daughter and the family worker said that my husband said im a unfit mum cause I'd had a some beers and slurred my words a bit but I wasnt causing a scene she wasnt even in my care her dad was looking after her and she was in bed im furious I never drink around dd

There is obviously a massive back story here.

How do the school know?

Your posting history is… interesting. I hope that you get the help that you need.

OP, I remember some of your other posts because of your stream of consciousness writing style -- you mention being sectioned, an abusive marriage, learning difficulties, not being allowed to look after your daughter FT, and, I think, addictions.

I don't think any of us on here can give you useful advice in the circumstances. You're clearly vulnerable. Do you have a social worker to talk to? Your GP?

There’s no way a school says you can’t be alone with your daughter as you have a couple too many beers when she’s not even with you. If you truly believe that then you’re deluding yourself.

What??? How on earth would your child be taken off you because you got drunk when she was with her dad? That would never happen in a million years! Your kids wouldn't even be taken off you if you got drunk and they were in your care?! Plenty of parents drink with their kids at home / at the pub / at weddings etc?!

Ah ok. I have just seen your other posts. Yeah I think you need some serious help OP. Mumsnet is not the place for the issues you are having...

Good luck with everything 💐

There is clearly a lot going on in your life. I assume social work and health services are involved with you? You need to listen what you are being asked to do and make sure you comply. Taking control is hard if you feel you have never been in control and if your mental health is poor. Try not to catastrophise. Take a break. Go for a walk and clear your head. Take one day at a time. I hope things improve for you soon.

Looking at your other posts a few beers is the tip of the iceberg the words shit and show spring to mind.

I hope you get the help you need, OP. Please engage with the services to give yourself the best chance of a healthy relationship with your daughter in the future. All the best.

Im not deluding my self

@Hippychickbbbbyoure not answering the questions - what would you like to discuss?

You are if you think that having a few beers this one time is why the school won’t let you see your child alone.

Are you okay?

I dont have addictions

Do you want to explain your OP any further? Or just continue to given monosyllabic-esque responses? No-one here can help you if you don't explain.

I’ve not read your other threads. It seems unlikely to me that this is the reason you have been told you cannot have your child on your own, have there been other incidents? Also you say school said you cannot have your daughter alone, have they reported you for safeguarding reasons?

I cant forgive myself

I did explain the school and family worker said I cant be alone with her cause slurred my words he's unfairly judgemental ive not harmed dd

As you have given very limited context then all I can say is quit drinking all together. Its not worth it . And if you are at the point that you dont realise you are drunk then it is a problem.
And if more then one person in your life has highlighted it then it pprobably wake up call .

Eh? The school? My kids teachers have no say in what I do or drink. I don't understand why they are involved?

Hi, @Hippychickbbbb. I recognised your style and have read your previous threads.

I don't think you'll listen to anything we say, so just holding your hand for a bit. Drinking makes your mental health worse, you know that. It sounds like you're still with that abusive man. It can feel like a drink helps you get through the rough patches (I know, I've been there). Truth is, though, it just weakens you and makes it easier for others to take advantage of you.

There is help, but you look in the wrong places for it. Wishing you well.

The school will be involved because social services are involved. Education is part of the multi-agency team supporting families and children. They will be aware of any plans that are in place and will be alert to the fact that drinking is not positive for the OP.