What should I do 😢

[Rebeccalil92]

Sorry for the long post but just looking for some
advice.

I’m currently stuck between heartbroken and angry. Me and my partner who have been together for 10 years have been having some issues recently my 15-year-old stepdaughter, whose hormones have kicked in, and everything's my fault so things haven’t been great!

i have then gone on the computer last night, where his Instagram account was still open, to see three messages to different women who I don't know.

The first one was giving someone some advice and offering to go and help a pretty lady.

The second one was messaging another woman, asking what she's up to, with kisses at the end of the messages, which I don't even get.

the third one was talking to someone who lives abroad, where she's asking when she should book her flight for, during some time that he's got off over the school holidays, which I can't get off. she's come back saying, oh, you're not very enthusiastic, to which he's replied, I am, I just don't know how we'll make this work.

I'm so stuck, and I just don't know what to do and I don’t really have anyone to talk to x

It sounds as though your relationship is over OP if he is actively seeking to meet up with these other women.
Do you jointly own your home?

From an emotional point of view, you are very upset right now and deservedly so. This man is pathetic. Any time I get a message off a random man like that, it makes me heave.
He is checked out from the relationship, casting a net out to see what or who he will catch.
The third woman sounds equally pathetic, wiling to get on a flight to see a man she probably has never met/barely knows.
He is cheat, OP.
You probably feel like crumbling but the wise women on here will tell you not to crumble in front of him.
If you try to confront him, he will lie and then make it your fault.
The best thing you can do, and this is tough, is say nothing and then gather more evidence and take pictures of it. If you can access his laptop and phone do it. It’s normally an invasion of privacy, but in this case, needed.
Then begin to organise your life. You need to know where you are financially in terms of who owns what.
And then make plans to leave. Do not stay with this man, and return his charming daughter to him to look after.
All of the above is very hard to do but it’s the only way if you want to live with dignity.

Does he let you do all the drudge work including for his daughter while he's flirting with women online? I'd look into separation.

Who owns the house? He sounds like a complete embarrassment and not worth keeping as a boyfriend.
Prioritise your financial security and a blissful future without this sleaze.

Yep!!! Which is what makes it even worse…

Thank you I just don’t have many friends and hardly any family and it’s just so hard but I know what I need to do but just needed someone to confirm it I think x

You need to leave him ASAP, no question. Hes taking you for a fool.

No luckily

You can do it. You're worth way more than this dickhead.
Can you kick him out? Who's house is it?

Tell him straight up you know he's trying to cheat and had women trying to book flights over FFS. He's an arsehole for stringing them along also. I can't imagine they think he's not single?

You don't need him in your life.

Him and his daughter can get along with their own lives and you shouldn't give them another thought. X

I’m so sorry OP. But there is only one real answer to the question of what you should do, which is to end the relationship. Don’t let him talk you round - he’s obviously an arsehole not just for cheating/trying to cheat, but for the way he is treating you. You deserve better. I promise.

So you own the property? Boot him out, don't even given him the attention of an argument, just tell him you're no longer attracted to him and he is to get out.

Never house a man or raise his kid for him, it very rarely serves women to do these things.

If it's your house kick him out, you're not married so I hope he doesn't have a claim to it. Don't do any work for his DD, just say, 'she's your DD you look after her'.

He’s checked out and is arranging to meet other women.

Horrible way to find out that your husband/partner is an utter scumbag and a coward.

Rathee than finish things with you he’s being an absolute coward and plotting behind your back.

There is nothing redeemable in a weak and cruel man.

This, your life will be so much better soon!

Let me guess. He's moved himself and his daughter into your home?

Op you have seen it, just pack up his stuff and leave it at the door, why even confront him why!! You know, nothing he says can change that,

Why put yourself through the conversation, you'll be upset, he'll use some excuse, you'll be devastated, he'll promise to change that's if he tells you the truth,

You look after you that's it op,