A little background, I have 3 daughters under 4 with my partner. We have been together for around 7 years. I work evenings a few days a week and he works long shifts 5 days a week.
My youngest hates sleep so sleep is really lacking here which makes me very emotional and down sometimes. He also doesn't cook, clean or wash up and when he is here he just mainly sits on his phone. He does do the bed times with the baby (with the phone and TV on loud or course).
We had a argument over nothing on weds - we have a new lock for our garden gate and I was struggling to fit it so I asked him if he could help. He did and by the time I had put the girls to bed he asked me if I wanted to come and check how to release it properly as it's only temp and still quite stiff, but I said I'd be fine using it the next morning as I needed a shower etc. The next morning i went to open the gate and it got jammed so reluctantly called him to ask how he sorted it yesterday. He then erupted saying this is why i should have tried it out etc.
I thought that we sorted it out however this morning I was looking for a nappy bag and I shouted up to him (calmly and not aggressive at all) if he had gotten them from the shop like I'd asked yesterday, he came downstairs and said that he hadn't and it's all his fault. He turned to our eldest and said it's all Daddy's fault all the time isn't it?! And started to say I had awful attitude with him. I know for a fact I can have attitude sometimes, partly because I am so tired and partly because of resentment, but I know that I was not rude at all to him. He's now taken our eldest out and had a face liked a slapped arse when he left.
I've pathetically started crying because I am so confused as to what I've supposedly done. Not sure what the point of this post is, maybe to get some insight into if I am being ott in being upset or not!