How to get over an ex?

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My ex left me 11 months ago; we have 2 children together.

I’ve recently found out he is dating and is serious about this woman, he’s described himself as ‘all in’ in the relationship.

I literally cannot function. I love him so much and all I want is our family back together. He’s gorgeous, wealthy, a good father and I feel like a washed up woman who’s had two children back to back.

His new girlfriend is around his age with children, so it’s not like he’s gone for someone significantly younger, gorgeous, childless etc.

Anyone who’s got over an ex, how the hell do you do it? Especially with their perfection and left you. I literally cannot cope, I feel like ending it all (I’m not going to though).

Please get medical help. Even if you say you won’t end it, thinking about it is a sign you are not well. Even just calling a friend to talk you down is a step in the right direction.

sometimes life is shit. The pain can be scorching but you can get through it. Just take everything one day at a time, find the good things in each day, and if a day feels like an eternity take it one hour at a time.

wish you well OP x

I think very often we have rose tinted glasses on when we think about the past, but the fact that you are no longer together says he isn’t as perfect as you feel he is. Infact, I’m going out on a limb and saying I bet he wasn’t perfect at all! He left you with two kids? When you still loved him? Seems like a bit of a shit to me! And you are certainly putting yourself down, and please don’t do this, you deserve to love and respect yourself! What happened with your marriage does not reflect on you!

it takes time, but looking after yourself and treating yourself the way you deserve will make you feel better! Surround yourself with friends and family, the people who deserve to spend time with you and who love you truly! Go out with friends, they are so precious in times like this! Have a laugh!!! Mates really do shine through in times like this. Do something you’ve always wanted to do, get out there! In time, start going on dates, it doesn’t have to be anything serious, just enjoy other people’s company! You will meet someone (if that’s what you want to happen) but just know you are worthy, you are a mummy who is loved by her kids and soon you’ll realise you are over him! Big hugs xx

You need to go to get counseling to help you process the grief if your marriage ending.

And avoid exposing yourself to their relationship- block them on socials, drop offs away from their house etc.

Stay dignified.

Pour all your energy into yourself - healthy happy and beautiful and strong. Gym and nice treats