I recently found out through the discovery of an online album that my husbands been having an affair for nearly a year. The online album was a full nude sexy photoshoot of them together (weird I know), a quick search of his email found more naked posed photos of her from last year with the message “thank you”- he is - 44 year old father of 3. I threw him out and then find out that she was also married with a child. Further investigating I find out that she does not have primary care of her own child, has mental health issues and my husband had taken my youngest son on play dates with hers nearly 6 months ago. The past year he’s been telling me that I need to work on myself, didn’t buy any Christmas presents for the kids and has screamed at me in front of them and made me cry too many times. I’m just reeling from the deception and I don’t know how I can ever talk to the person I’ve been with for 16 years ever again. Any tips on how to make it easier for the kids? My main priority. And how am I going to deal with him? All he says is that he’s “sorry I found out this way”. He’s out of the house (I packed his bags when I found out), it’s only been two weeks and the kids don’t know yet- I’ve said he’s travelling for work but he has them at his parents this weekend. He made me refinance the house in January and I think he had this whole plan for him to make me feel so bad that I’d ask him to leave. He’d end up with an amicable split and I’d be nice about dividing assets. We had even had a fight the week before I found out about affair where I asked if there was someone else- he looked me in the eye and said no. I asked for us to do counselling and he said “let’s just keep talking” with a smirk on his face.