How to help my friend

[jamanbutter]

My friends husband has left her for another woman. She has been blindsided by this and she is absolutely devastated. She has kept the home and her sons are living with her. Recently, two months after their father walked out, they have decided they want to move out.
Also her mother has expressed her disappointment in her due to her marriage failing - weird I know! So she is not talking to her much.

Anyway she feels that no person in her life wants her (she repeats this all the time) and almost everyday she falls apart. She recently called her husband who yelled down the phone at her to get out of his life. She then started talking about ending it all, I don’t think she would.

I have encouraged her to seek counselling. I go see her everyday after work. Is there anything else that anyone can think of that may help?

Sorry for your friend OP. You are doing all you can. She must feel like all those she gets close to will let her down or leave so being that safe place and the one who she can trust is everything. Read once true humanity exists in not having a squeamish ear, it exists in being able to bear hearing about suffering and having the disposition of heart to relieve it. So never underestimate the power of getting in the trenches with her and just being there.
Talk of suicide should never be diminished. Worth asking her if she wants to be dead or the pain to go away (two different things). Can empathise too that life can indeed be extremely painful at times but the sad thing about suicide is that the pain does not go away. It goes onto everyone who loves her for the rest of their lives. I say that, as often when people don’t care about themselves or if they think no one would notice they are gone, they can hang in if it means those they love won’t have to feel the way they do.
Whilst letting her go over (hundreds of times if need be) how she feels with a view to understanding not judging, when you can encouraging her to have some fun with you important too. She can and will get through but trauma takes a long time to assimilate. She’s lucky to have you.