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False accusations

9 replies

Deadendlife · 27/06/2025 17:15

How do you stop someone from constantly accusing you of something you didn’t do even though they know you didn’t won’t back it up and consistently does it in front of your daughter

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JohnofWessex · 27/06/2025 17:17

Avoid them

perfectcolourfound · 27/06/2025 17:18

You can't stop them. They know they are lying and know it's hurting you but they want to do it.

Stop responding. Don't raise your voice. Don't show them you're frustrated. They doing it to hurt you and to get a reaction from you. If they see they've successed they'll just keep doing it.

Show your daughter how to respond in cases like this - keep your dignity, walk away, don't look back. You deserve better and so does your daughter.

Theunamedcat · 27/06/2025 17:18

Divorce them

Sodthesystem · 27/06/2025 17:23

Get away from them and get your daughter away too. Or if they are the dad, don't be around for him to talk bad about if she has to spend time with him. He's only doing it to get a rise out of you. If you aren't there, s/he has less reason to say it to your child.

'Your daddy talks a lot of silly nonsense sometimes, pay it no mind' when it's just you with your daughter.

You can't stop abusive people from being abusive. You can only leave. There's no magic words that turn bad people good.

Sodthesystem · 27/06/2025 17:25

Also, speak to your child about how adults can be bullies too.

You don't need to link it to the person. But be sure to teach her that some people are just mean. And all we can do is avoid them as much as possible.

Tangelablue · 27/06/2025 17:32

You can't stop them from accusing you. It's likely they are the one cheating. Protect your mental health by having nothing more to do with them. Are they a parent to your child?

Lmnop22 · 27/06/2025 17:45

Whatever they’re accusing you of, they’re doing. So stay wary.

thatsawhopperthatlemon · 27/06/2025 17:48

You keep yourself and your dc well away from them. As far away as possible.

TwistedWonder · 27/06/2025 17:58

Go no contact with them

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