WhatsApp perfect cheating feature

[DonnyBurrito]

I've mentioned this on a different thread, as the OP (with a cheating husband) had suggested that his WhatsApp was easier to check for ilicit messages than Snapchat, because SC has disappearing messages (although WhatsApp also has this feature, it's just very conspicuous and takes a bit longer for them to disappear I think).
But WhatsApp has an even better feature than disappearing messages for cheaters called 'Chat lock'. I told my fairly tech savvy friend about this recently and she was shocked when I showed her how it worked, and she didn't know about it at all. I'm wondering how many other radars it's gone under.

Chat lock can create a secret folder for messages which is not visible in the app anywhere at all, and whether the feature is being used or not is not shown either. It is password protected or biometrics. You type the password into the search bar at the top of WhatsApp and a little icon with a lock appears, it unclicks, and you tap on it to enter the secret folder.

As I say, there's no way of knowing whether this feature is being used if it's been hidden, and if you try to change the password in the settings to get into the folder, then all the chats get deleted anyway. The only way to make the folder appear is by knowing the password... Which, if the user is clever, will be a long string/pattern of every day emojis that won't look out of place in the recently used emojis.

The only way I've figured to see if the features being used is if the contact that's been hidden is saved in the phone. If you go to the phones contacts, find the contact you're suspicious about, and click 'message on WhatsApp' - it will show that the chat is locked and will ask for a password. So you could get proof that something is being hidden between two people, just not exactly what it is. That only works for numbers that are saved, though.

Anyways, have a look for yourselves if you don't know about it, you'll find it in WhatsApp settings.

The only thing worse than an insufferable know-it-all is one who is actually objectively wrong. Feel free to read through the rest of the thread, there are plenty here who either didn't know about it or didn't know you could fully hide it. Alongside the people in my life who I've told about it who didn't know about it. Hence the reason I posted...

Exactly this.

Right

Does your partner know you feel like this? Have you been honest with her about that?
If you're happy with your partner like you say you are, why do you want to have sex with others?
I'm not having a go, I'm just trying to understand. Is she not enough for you?

Yeah same, it says "locked chats" above my other normal chats and I can set a different password to access the locked folder.

It would be blatantly obvious to anyone on my WhatsApp that I am using the feature. MAYBE my Android is different than your phone OP?

No, I've got an Android too. The settings to hide the folder itself isn't in the generic WhatsApp settings, it's in the locked chat folder itself. Go into your locked chats folder, and you'll see 3 dots in the top corner. Tap that, you'll find 'Chat lock settings' and the option to hide your folder completely is there.

I'm not having a go

No worries, didn't think you were!

If you're happy with your partner like you say you are, why do you want to have sex with others?

Because I enjoy sex, and always enjoyed sex with new partners, back when that was an option. I liked exploring their bodies, finding out what made them gasp, what things they did that no-one else had done before. It's new, and exciting.

To go back to the badminton metaphor I used previously. I have a badminton partner I play with a lot. We're about the same skill level, we give each other a good game, and on top of that we get on well so have good banter on the court and then can go off and have a pint together afterwards. But it's also comfortable. We know all of each others tricks and weak points, noone is going to outwit the other. We're not trying to prove ourselves, so there's no challenge. When I play against someone different, it's exciting. I have to engage my brain more, work out new tactics. It's different, and different is fun.

Does your partner know you feel like this? Have you been honest with her about that?

That's a complicated one to answer. We had conversations when we first got together about it. She knew then that while I'm emotionally monogamous, I don't really see why it should follow that sexual monogamy must follow. She knew that I'd be open to threesomes, swinging, sex outside the relationship, as long as we were both honest about it. And she knew that I didn't need any of those things, and that I was completely happy to go into the relationship never having sex outside of it ever again.

20 years later, does she still know all of that? Who knows. We've not spoken about it in decades. I know that her position hasn't changed, so there would be absolutely no benefit to either of us of me ever bringing it up.

Is she not enough for you?

She is utterly, and entirely enough for me. While I don't see the point in sexual monogamy, I am emotionally monogamous. I want to be in 1 relationship, and I want that relationship to be with DP. While I could have sex with someone else without feeling guilt (in the hypothetical scenario that DP would never find out), I could never have an affair with someone else. And the same goes the other way. If DP were to have a drunken one night stand with someone, then I wouldn't be particularly bothered. If she had an emotional affair, I'd be absolutely devastated.

Ah! Interesting. I'll have to check it out. I use the feature to hide chats with people I find difficult so I don't have to see their names and photos whenever I go into WhatsApp.

I use this feature to put group chats I wish I wasn’t part of and people who annoy me. It’s quite full.
Sorry OP to hear about your DH.

Sure. But this isn't about the cheaters. It's about their unwitting spouse being able to find out the truth

I have every reason to do what I had to do if you were in my shoes! I couldn't take it any longer. I had spent over a thousand dollars on medication she couldn't stop. he was a drug addict i realized a bit late through his text messages and recent call records to different hard drug dealers. he had gotten to the point of selling them for a living and i noticed he is always spending lavishly and never thought of our kids and I thought that was enough until he brought a woman to our bed while i was away to satisfy his sexual urge. I got all the information I needed from him through the great services of fred valc ybergh ost @ gm ail .c om and you can text,call him on +..1..97..82..951..763 and WHATSAPP him on +..191..282..770..32. and I wouldn't have known if I didn't take this good step. I ended it when we got to court with the concrete evidence I got!. I am happy to live a life without his unnecessary acts.

If someone's partner feels the need to use all that, Tor, VPN, etc, they definitely feel like they're in a controlling relationship.
I used to live under communism and those would be the kind of things people would have used, were they available then, to hide their true thoughts from the state security. It gives me the shudders reading OP and everyone else plotting how to uncover things...

I used to live under communism - to the best of my knowledge, communism has never been achieved - socialism, yes, but communism? Did you live in an imaginary land?

Or it might be a sign that they feel trapped, possibly abused, and need to seek secret help.

So like in Romania where people were only allowed certain toys and stuff (I know this from my Romanian friends who fled communism), that was all not happening?

Don't be tiresome - Romania was socialist, not communist. Communism (atheist paradise on Earth) has never been achieved in history.

LOL ok.

Not for cheating, but thanks for this, I just chucked all the groups that piss me off with their constant chattering into locked chat so I don't have to see them. I had been using archive but it was annoying sitting at the top of my chats.

This!
If you feel the need to go through someone’s phone the relationship should be over anyway.

I use the lock chats for privacy. I have a teenage son whose lost his phone and uses my sometimes so it’s good to hide people I’m dating in the locked chats then when I get notifications their name or profile pic doesn’t show and if he does go into my WhatsApp the chat isn’t there.

Unless the notifications are muted though. Notifications will still show up but will just show the green WhatsApp symbol so if another person sees this they may know that ther is a locked chat.