Emotionally unavailable husband

[Summerfete77]

We have been married for 6 years and have a 2 children, there have been some good times in my marriage but currently feel exhausted, not valued and ignored. I run the house, cooking, cleaning, food shopping etc and also work.

We sleep in separate rooms, and my husband is incredibly emotionally unavailable, so cold and distant. We've spoken about it and im always to blame for being never happy and always complaining. I am told I live in fairytale land and that this is normal. No intimacy for months no kisses no hugs no touch nothing.

Went to a party recently few hours from home so got ready at my friend's house not even a oh what you wearing? Send me a picture or oh you look nice, He's never complimented me. Doesnt even try to please me or make me happy im just running around tending to him and the kids, but what about me?

Is this what marriage is meant to be?

There is loads of help online for you to understand about Dismissive Avoidants. It seems he is one.

You can’t solve it. And you need to leave because this is setting a terrible pattern for your DC. Not your fault but there it is.

my husabnd is dismmisve avoidant too an it broke me

my husabnd has never complimented me ever. I think he is dismissive avoidant s another poster commented. it broke me an I ended up in psychosis from stress

why did you marry him?

I understand this. I can’t afford to leave my husband. I think he’s more of a narcissist though but he does all the same things as your husband.
Your husband won’t change. I’m sorry

Make plans to leave and start anew. This man is never going to change no matter what you do. He will break you.