How did your leave your relationship when there is kids involved?

[Jadelr]

I have a 9 month old son and lately his dad is just out right awful to me. Calls me all the names under the sun, is verbally aggressive and does nothing but put me down and say I’m the problem. He does nothing for his son or me and I’m mentally so worn down I can’t take this any more but yet I’m struggling to pluck up the courage to leave.

I know I need too for the sake of my son but I just don’t know how, I don’t know what’s made him this way but he’s not the person he used to be. I feel like I know what I need to do but just don’t know where to start 😢

Leave, if you have a supportive family and your unhappy leave. That's what I did with a 4 week old, pre arranged with parents before birth, left when he was at work. Couldn't take the abuse but he was also physical and I had been told if I stayed I would have son taken off me. Not sure which was worse verbal or physical. Not saying it was easy but after a couple of weeks getting myself together then found a house and went from there starting again and much happier, best thing I ever did and have a now wonderful 15 yr old who speaks nicely etc not like his father who hasn't seen him in all that time

It will be 1000 times easier when your child is young (ie. now) then when they are 3 or 7 or 10 when they have an attachment to him. Go now, knowing your son will grow and thrive never knowing what its like to live with this man.

Plenty of posters will be able to give you some excellent practical advice but please do it soon.