Would you tell?

[anxiousandmoody247]

Im friends with a guy who is married. We don't spend any time together but often send each other funny videos etc as we share the same humour. It has always been platonic and continues to be.

I met him through his wife years ago as I worked with her, a couple of years ago she got caught stealing from her workplace, a huge amount and ended up being arrested and going to court and caused a few people to lose their jobs. I remember being surprised at the time that he stayed with her but that was that. Anyway last week I was speaking to a woman who worked with her and she told me that this guy DOES NOT KNOW what she did!!

I don't know why this has bothered me so much, i just really feel for him that he thinks he has this amazing wife and marriage yet she has this huge secret that loads of people seem to know and not him.

No....also i don't send funny videos to ex colleagues husband....

not judging.

I cannot understand why any of this is your business.

Leave it alone.....

Why is it any of your business unless you want to be waiting in the wings for him to leave his wife?

Nope, because it isn't my business and has nothing to do with me. It does also seem unlikely he doesn't know if he was with her at the time and it went to court.

No, not in a million years. He's happy, hopefully she made a stupid mistake and is reformed. It's just not your place.

I was thinking the same.

Absolutely none of your business. Leave him alone.

No. Don't try to break up his marriage.

Not your place to tell him anything and I think you already know that!

I couldn’t really get worked up about this one way or the other. But I’d find it hard to believe he doesn’t know. Surely, if they have applied for a mortgage or had any financial dealings with each other, this would have come up?

I have a close family member who is married to someone who committed a terrible crime before they met. This all came to light after they had been together for about 10 years. I went to great lengths to figure out a way to tell her and put support in place in case he threw her out when she confronted him. Nope, turns out she always knew and didn’t care. 🤷🏻‍♀️ You would be surprised at the strength of people’s denial and cognitive dissonance.

So you heard from Betty, who used to work with Jane, and Betty says, that Jane's husband doesn't know about the time Betty blah blah blah...

It's pretty obvious you like Jane's husband. Stop looking for any reason to justify shit stirring in someone else's marriage.

Good God, no.... Don't even think about telling him, let alone actually doing it! I would find it very difficult to believe that he didn't know. If she stole a considerable amount of money from her employer, that led to job losses, then it's likely it made news in the local press. All her finances would have been examined, by the police and she may even had to repay some of it. This person seems to think he doesn't know, but if your partner had done this, would you be telling people about it?! So, it may seem on the surface he doesn't know, but he might do. Leave well alone. I don't understand why you think it's your place to tell him??? Ultimately, it's none of your business. Unless of course you have an ulterior motive.....

Do you think he’ll thank you for it?