Need help to understand what's gone on.

[Wynter25]

This is a strange one. And it's doing my head in. I gave my number out to someone I fancied well not specifically to him. Nothing came out. A few weeks later someone came up to me and asked if it was me who gave my number out and to who it was for to then he gave me his number.

So later that day I sent a text to get a text back saying he's married and with kids. Why would his mate give me his number. Obviously he'll have known about that. I can't think of a good enough reason to why he would give me it. Unless he's going through a divorce but would a bloke say he's married if that was the case. As technically they're still married. I don't know the point of the post. Just need to rant. And to try and understand what's gone on and if anyone has ever been in this situation..

Oh and to add we have had some interactions. My friend reckons he does like me just from the way he's acted.

It's all irrelevant, he has said that he is married with children so that's it.

I'm a bit confused. You gave your number to be passed onto someone else, and nothing came of it? Then another person asked if you'd given your number to this person, which you confirmed, so he gave you his mates number (I assume a different man from the first incident?). You then received a text back from this man, who told you he is married with children? If I am right, then yes, it's bizarre that his mate would have given you his number if he's married. It's something he'd know! I suppose he could have been playing a prank on his friend or the man didn't fancy you, and told you a lie to let you down gently? I can't give you an answer really, it's all hypothetical.

I’m lost 🤷‍♀️

I can't understand what you are saying. Try again?

He has decided it's best not to take it further. Send a 'message received and understood' text, then block him and get on with your life and meeting other people. This is a non starter.

Tbf his mate shouldn't have given me his number . It was just getting my hopes up

Same man. It was his mate who gave me his number. Its very bizarre. Why would you do that. How's that letting me down gently tho?!?

Don't comment then...

Don't comment then...

His mate shouldn't of given me his number. Was a shitty thing to do if he's not got a genuine reason for doing it.

Soe men are dicks. Surely you've realised this by now?

It doesn't matter why his friend did it. He's told you he's married so he has no interest in taking it further. And, if he does and it's just a game playing tactic, you should want much better for yourself than being some bloke's bit on the side.

I have many interactions with men. It doesn't mean there is interest on either side.

It doesn't matter whether your friend is right or not. He's married and married people can be attracted to other people. It doesn't mean that an affair is going to happen.

Yes I obviously know that. I've had men be dicks before. But it does matter. I would like to know what possessed his mate to do it.

Of course I want better for myself. I can't help it that it's driving me mad. Its the not knowing why.

The only way I would get involved is if he was going through a divorce but guess I'll never know.

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But even if he is going through a divorce he’s still not interested or he would have said?

None of us know why anyone else does what they do. The only person who can answer you is the mate