Hi mums, my husband left me 8 weeks ago for another woman at work. Since then he given so many mixed signals about what he wants, trying to reconnect in subtle ways which ive shut down every time.
He came to drop the kids off yesterday and put his phone on the floor infront of where he knew id see it. There was a photo of him and the girl he went behind my back with kissing as his wallpaper so she’s back on the scene. I said very calm and cool “that’s an interesting photo, how long?” He went 2-3 weeks, so 5 weeks after we separated. He insisted they were just friends and was messaging her flirting behind my back and arranging to go and see her at her house with the notifications switched off. I wished him well and told him to make sure she’s right before he introduces the kids. I then informed him I will be applying for divorce now for the level of disrespect. He said ive always deserved better than him. I told him when I move out in 3 days I will give him back the keys by leaving them in the key safe. He then told me he wants me to keep them incase of an emergency or if the dogs need something while he’s on a long shift. I told him that’s not my issue anymore it’s his and to give one to his mam or his new girlfriend, he said “no why would I?” I then told the kids to say goodbye and 2 minutes later he comes back up with the car seat and asks if I need it, I said no and that I would have said if I did, he said I’ll put it in the cupboard and I just closed the door. People are saying they think he’s confused and this is a rebound because why would he want me to keep his spare key? It feels so strange.. I don’t understand. Then he was saying he didn’t know what was going to happen with him and this girl. Confused much? They started dating unofficially 5 weeks after we split after a 5 and a half year marriage..
I messaged today to let him know my friends (kids godparents) will be having the kids tomorrow while I move as he’s at work and wouldn’t return till 1:30 in the afternoon. He read it, didn’t reply and then messaged me back saying whatever works best just to let him know with a bunch of smiley faces. The bit that’s confused me the most is why would you want me to keep your house key and not give it to your mam or new girlfriend?