I’ve been seeing this guy for about 10 months now and he recently went to Thailand to go see his daughter which I have no issue with I’m totally fine with that. he said that he’d be gone for about 4 to 6 weeks which like I said I am fine with I’ve got no issues with that but I can’t help but feeling like I’ve been kicked to the curb. the Friday night he left I didn’t hear anything from him so I messaged him before he got on his flight to wish him a safe flight, to keep in touch and to message me when he got to Thailand so I knew he got there safe. he replied and said that he’d message me as soon as he arrived in Thailand, now this is where I start feeling a bit kicked to the curb because I found out that he arrived in Thailand through his Facebook story. I didn’t even hear anything from him all weekend until the Monday after I’d messaged him first in the morning saying that I see you’ve made it, He replied and said that he was sorry and that he was busy with his daughter which is obviously understandable but I’m thinking in my head it takes two minutes to send somebody a message, so I’ve messaged him back and I said no that’s totally fine I know you’re gonna be busy and that, I just thought that you’d have messaged me off your own back. I didn’t hear anything off him again until three days later and then again didn’t hear from him till 3/4 days later. Now fast forward to last Friday he messaged me so I messaged him back and I’d asked him if he knew when he was coming back or not. I didn’t hear anything from him until after I’ve messaged him again on Monday saying that I missed him. He messaged back and claimed that he had been poorly all weekend and that he wasn’t sure when he was coming back because he was flying out to Vietnam next week to see an old friend so I’ve messaged him back and I said well fair enough okay then just keep me updated on when you know you’re gonna come back which bring us today and I’ve still not heard owt from him.
I just feel mixed emotions right now, I don’t know how to feel. Before he went to Thailand, we were speaking on a daily basis seeing each other every weekend/every other weekend on a regular basis for 10 months straight. I just feel like as soon as he’s got on the plane that I’ve been kind of just pushed to the side, like how can you go from speaking to someone on a daily basis to then messaging them twice in one week I don’t get that and that’s what makes me think that sometimes he’s not that into me.
I think what’s messed with my head the most is 6 days before he left he stayed at mine and he was talking about that when he comes back from Thai maybe we could take things further and have a relationship, take things slow and slowly start meeting my children and I’m totally on that page I mean I’m falling in love with this guy but at the same time I can’t help but feel mixed emotions from him. one minute I feel like he wants me then I feel like he’s pushed me away.
I haven’t said anything to him yet I don’t like saying stuff like this over message while he’s all the way over in Asia and I’m in the UK. I know that when he does come back I will be telling him that if he does want to have a relationship with me, then he starts to treat me the way I deserve to be treated.
I just wanted to come on here to have a little rant to some strangers, I’m not really looking for advice cause I know how am gonna handle this but if you’ve got advice feel free to post it. I just needed to get it off my chest because otherwise I’d be say overthinking it to myself. Thank you for taking the time to read my long post 😊