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Just for some context me and my partner have been together since 2022. I’m his first love and first 👀 he used to have telegram, twitter etc when he was first with me and got rid of it months after we started living together. He’s always gone on about other women and porn stars etc. but the way he speaks about them it’s so in depth. He will sit there showing me pictures zooming in calling them perfect and no one is like them. Saying these porn stars are amazing girlfriends and he’d be so happy if he had a girlfriend like that pointing out she’s got a brilliant figure for a mother knowing I’m a mother. He’s always tried looking up sex tapes of certain celebs. He goes way into depth saying what he would do to these people on social media and is just vulgar. I’ve stated for years I hate it. He stopped last year September. Bearing in mind I had his child last June. I have never sat there precipitating the same sort of comments. All these people looking nothing like me they’re all skinny and I’m quiet chubby , so he calls me(I’m a size 14) he’s called me over weight, said I’m built like his 57 year old mum, said I’ve got a “big massive belly” and sat I'm fat. I ended up getting severe depression around Christmas due to this. he’s admitted that he still likes the same people and has the same thoughts even though there’s no women on his social media. He also had a severe porn addiction and used to watch it for hours while I was at work pregnant. He still watches it however hides it by erasing his screen time. Even though he’s done all this he still lets me sleep in and makes my breakfasts and massages my feet and calls me georgous and beautiful everyday he’s all over me constantly. He has said he likes big girls too but can’t give an example. There’s nearly 200 girls he’s mentioned to me and only one was not skinny. Am I stupid for always thinking about this and letting it get to me? Am I being silly for being bothered that I’m not his type (he said he doesn’t have a type he likes anything, but it’s always skinny) ? It’s giving me depression.

I am so sorry, he sounds like a terrible partner :( you deserve much better, relationships are supposed to be an enhancement of your life and he sounds very debilitating/ like he’s causing a lot of your suffering. It’s obviously hard but there are lots of really great guys out there that would be horrified with how he is treating you. It might be one of those relationships you look back on and question why you tortured yourself. I’m sure you’re a lovely person with lots going for you otherwise you wouldn’t have shown him so much patience and hope. I really hope you leave him and take some time for yourself to reflect on what you deserve. The longer you spend with the wrong one, the less time you have with the right one (and all that jazz)! Sending lots of love x

I'm sorry OP but why on earth are you in a relationship with this disgusting man?

Your depression will lift and your self esteem will return when you leave him.

I can't understand why you sit there and let him talk to you like that.

Because he gaslights me into thinking I matter to him more than girls on a screen and in songs.

Is he 15? You should binned him off a long time ago

Supposed to be 22 😭

One of the worst “partner” / other half / bf posts I have read on here recently. Just leave. What a terrible relationship to be in. You will be so much better off without him or become a shell of yourself if you don’t do anything

What a horrible person he is.

Please just end this now - your still young enough to not let him impact your life too much. My DP (and also my ExDH) would never say any of those things to me even when I have gained a bit of weight. He needs to grow up! Unfortunately you now share a child with him but don't let that stop you - a child needs a happy mum, not a depressed low confident one

Omg why are you with this man?? He is awful

He sounds incredibly immature, and no offence but he sounds like he'd be the type of guy that many woman would describe as a 'repulsive loser' and someone who could never get a date. Like a keyboard warrior loner that sits behind a screen all day never interacting with real people. His view of sex and real woman is distorted because of social media and porn. He does not deserve you!!

You're right in that he's gaslighting you and I can tell you now if you accept his behaviour now it will only get worse as time goes on.

He's testing the waters with you right now to see what he can get away with and to put you in your place while tearing you down.

Leave now while you still can. 22 is so young. Your future self will thank you for leaving now!

I have a word with him every couple of months and same outcome everytime he doesn’t change but tells me how I’m so “perfect” he’s destroyed my sex drive and confidence and happiness

He is an awful person. You should make any future decisions about whether or not you stay with him knowing that he is an awful person, and that he is role modelling these attitudes and behaviours to your child

At 22 you have your whole life ahead of you, do you want to spend it feeling this way?
Please get out of this relationship now, don't settle for anyone who doesn't make you feel loved, wanted and gorgeous, you don't deserve to be treated this way.

@GraceUnderPresure ,OP is 26. It's her partner who is 22.

No holding back? You’re hilarious 😂 also thanks