New relationship after separation

[Kit87x]

Hi, I was in a relationship for 20 years and married for 8 with 4 children. We separated last October after not really getting along for years and just being together for the children. I’ve been kind of seeing someone casually for the last 5 months who I work with, no one at work knows. We haven’t been on any dates as it was meant to be just a bit of fun. Anyway, we have decided to go on our first date, just for a curry. I just feel really nervous about this though and that he will find me boring with nothing to talk about. I know this sounds silly considering we have had a sexual relationship for a few months now, but we do seem to like each other more than we thought we would and am just worrying I’ll have nothing to talk about other then work related topics. Any advice welcome, this is my first date with someone in absolute years haha.

Ah this is lovely! Don’t overthink it, reframe it as an opportunity to get to know him and find out more about him and letting him get to know you better. And just enjoy yourself! ⭐️

Don't panic, people love talking about themselves, so instead of trying to appear interesting, be interested. Take the pressure off yourself, you don't need to think of things to say, or "be", ask questions, be genuine, warm and friendly. He's probably a bit nervous too. Don't feel like you're being interviewed for the position of Girlfriend, it's just a curry with someone you know. You can do that.

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I’m just such an over thinker 🙈 I better not attend with a list of questions to ask then 😂

Hope it goes really well!