6 weeks ago the police came to mine to get my ex out. He refused to go as he needed to charge his phone. He's a borderline that's heavily abusive and I've endured hell.
He had very minimal family left. 2 family members to be exact. One of them became his back up and she sent me horrible messages. I reported her too. She's blocked.
The other is one of his children. An adult. Who he began gradually trashing me to which I did not know. In the last 6 weeks of our relationship he told her I was scaring him and he was on egg shells terrified of me. For obvious reasons I've blocked his children. I don't feel i should have to live my life expecting one of them to start messaging me on his behalf for his things.
He's had 6 weeks. A month ago I said send me money and an address and he didn't bother. He was in temp accommodation and who knows if he still there. He's no longer local.
I have a bag of random clothes. Mostly I can't see it being that important. His glasses. A box of photos mainly of his daughter away with her boyfriend or her friends on nights out. Weirdly a journal she wrote when she was unwell and she left it at his a year ago. A card from her. His dogs collar and first toy that's ready for the bin from being chewed.
I've bought a suction bag for his clothes and thought about jumping his photos etc in the bag too. But how long should I gang onto his stuff. Am dreading the contact a few months down the line.