Sister in law letting her newborn around father sexual predator?!

[Colee321]

Hi so just for context we have a 2 year old that has no contact with my partners dad or his enabling wife she to him being accused of being inappropriate with a child (SIL friend) although he wasn't convicted his wife doesn't believe that he didn't do it! He was also watching a woman with binoculars, taking photos of women in Tesco and hiding in the bathroom afterwards( my sis in law was with him),he's also been inappropriate with me trying to undo my bra and also groping his friends daughter, his wife also has bells on her bedroom door because he tries to be inappropriate with her and the son has a lock and found incest porn on his phone. I'm just a little taken aback that my sister in law is willingly bringing her child into that situation should I have a conversation with her? I'm struggling because it honestly makes me sick.

You should certainly try but it sounds like the whole family are minimising his behaviour and they won't thank you for shining a spotlight on it
What does your partner think? I would struggle to have any respect for a man who continues to have any sort of relationship with a pervert like this

I’d report to SS

What do you hope to achieve? Your SIL knows all about his behaviour and is exposing her child to it regardless, do you really think a word from you will change her mind?

So your part of the family doesn’t have contact at all but your SiL is going to allow her child around him. Was he reported for the one assault only?

How old is the DS? If he is a child I would report everything to social services. I would also report what he did to you to the Police as it’s an assault.

the son has a lock and found incest porn on his phone

Was this reported to the police?

I had contacted them when I was pregnant and they pretty much said they wouldn't be able to do anything because he hasn't been convicted of a crime against a child!

Even if he had been convicted, your child doesn’t live with him and you’re able to protect him so there would be no role for social work. They’d only be involved if there was a child living at the same address.

They are minimizing it which is confusing to me because they are ALL aware of it and probably more that I don't know! actually makes me feel like I'm the insane one keeping my daughter out of that situation sometimes!! My partner doesn't have any contact with his parents anymore.

He was reported for the child abuse but I think the little girl dropped it for some reason I don't know why.. the baby is only a few days old!! I contacted social services when I was pregnant and they pretty much said because he hasn't actually been convicted of anything there isn't anything they could do.

I expect she hopes to achieve safety for the child in question… your post is bizarre.

OP report to Children’s Services

Yeah I reported everything when I requested information using the children's law thing

I hope to achieve that an innocent child won't be be abused or exposed to the rest of the messed up stuff that goes on in that home! Maybe it won't change her mind but at least I've tried to do something.