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Is this abusive

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Hippychickbbbb · 22/06/2025 21:08

He said he's sick of my trauma when I said I was taken away put in a van he said I won't miss that!, I spoke slightly loulder as I was very emtional he said he's not putting up with it I said I didn't mean to he said I was playing the victim I wasn't ,I said I dont like those videos he mocked me when I spoke I got scammed he said he's not his problem

He said he didn't care I was traumatised! He rolled his eyes when I said I wanted to hold his hand but didnt. he said I made his skin crawl ,he said enough stop go and pushed me out the tent when I said I wanted the good times back he called me a worthless cunt and punched the door through he said I drove him too it, he found a letter with me saying he was gaslighting me he said it was over . I said I just wanted to feel loved he said me me me.he said I was negative I was self obsessed, he said he can't handle my mood s as I was crying three times this week.he said my crying was waring before

,.he once said for me to kill myself he rolled his eyes when I was having a severe allergic reaction he said he was sick of my allergies. He said I was a pain in the ass ,I said I just wanted a normal relationship I cried he said that depends on you you talk about your feelings you talk about your tummy you talk about your job.he slammed the door in my face I said I still love him he said I was being manipulative I hugged him lots he said if I keep hugging him he will move to his mums ,he blames me for the marriage breakdown he said its 95 percent me . Is it me? I ran him baths ,cooked him special dinners and paid him compliments and bought him presents, it wasnt enough ,

I slammed the door as I was extremely stressed he pushed me to it why do I still love him I was repeating myself he said I was going on, I had alot to say im scared of the future, I showed him a lovely pic of myself he said me me me., he said im too big he likes skinny girls ! I tried so hard to get on with him ,my mum said don't even think about living with her,

when he called me a worthless cunt and punched the door in i went to my mums, she said never do this to her again if I do she will post me straight back,she said she knows I want her to show empathy but she's not going to I said she upset me she said I was being difficult I wasnt , she's too busy to see me she doesn't answer he phone I feel traumatised terrified depressed desperate is it nearly all me like he says!? he said divorce is the answer as we had talks till 2am he could have said he's going to bed.i knocked on his door at 1am thinking he was still awake I said I was distressed as he some times stays up that late I didn't realise he had gone to bed

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Ahsheeit · 22/06/2025 21:25

You're being horrifically abused, and it sounds like your mother isn't and hasn't been the protective and safe person in your life.

At the top of this page, there are links to where you can get help. Please use them. This man isn't safe for you to go back to. You deserve to feel safe and cared for.

Bibi12 · 22/06/2025 22:14

He is very abusive and not going to change. You need to leave.

Hippychickbbbb · 22/06/2025 22:19

He says he doesn't love me! I told a friend he was being abusive she told our other friend he said he didn't love me! He said he's sick of my allergies years ago he mocked me back then I had ticks he said I traumatised him i said repeated words I made sounds i moved my body they sectioned me for that

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Ahsheeit · 23/06/2025 12:15

It sounds like you have some significant mental health problems, and I promise you that he's contributing to these enormously and stopping you from being able to get well. Please get help to enable you to live a better and happier life.

pikkumyy77 · 23/06/2025 12:20

I agree with the others. He is obviously cruel to you—as is your mother cruel to you. But you seem to have trouble accepting this reality. Of course you “want the good times back” but they will never come back. He us not a good person snd can’t/won’t be “nice” to you for long. He treats you as disposable. Don’t cling to someone wo is kickng you. Get up and walk away.

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