Being friends with ex no children?

[Alicew00]

We tried being friends in January/feb after splitting in October. After 3 years I found him sending sexual messages to other women but it didn't work so i said i need some space/alone time. Then I started missing him and we started talking again only this time he'd moved and it killed me. I was in deep depression and he tried to help me but it didn't work.

I got help from starting gym and doctor. I am finally feeling better and told the ex it's best not to be friends now he's seeing someone. But he sent a voicenote of himself crying that he wants me in his life as a friend and to be there for each other. I do still keep thinking about him but I've been on a few dates since. Nothing worked out yet but I'm thinking i can move on. Should we be friends though? I dont know

I was in love with him

What's he crying for? 🙄

You've stated your boundary. You don't want to be friends.

So stick to it and block him if necessary.

No, move on and heal.

No don’t remain friends, he’s doing this for his own benefit and not yours.
You’re getting yourself into a better place, you now need space to fully move on from him and not worry about his emotions.
He’s moved on with his life, it’s very unfair that he’s crying on voice notes to you.

From my experience - no contact for quite a while. Then later - maybe? But you’ll never be close again, you’ll never be ‘normal friends’ with someone who’s abused your trust.

Don’t be stupid.

Exes can be friends in lots of situations, but this clearly isn’t one of them. You do not need us to tell you this.