Need a sense check, please

[FatTwat]

Am late forties & single. I have a colleague who works at a different site, also single. Met face to face only a couple of times & exchanged personal numbers a while ago. He seemed keen to meet up so I suggested a date (last weekend), which he then cancelled the day before (genuine reason, no problem with that). Now we have rearranged for this Thursday after work. Both have been clear it’s about sex, nothing more.

So the sense check I need is this: my 20 year relationship ended 3 years ago & have not had anything serious since then. I am very out of touch regarding dating & all that shite. I just have a vibe that he could be the sort of guy who appears massively keen but then bails at the last minute.

Perhaps this is normal now & I need to develop a thicker skin but need some advice on how much head space to give him.

I do have a tendency to over think & also get emotionally invested.

If you get emotionally invested how is a 'sex' only meet up going to affect you ? Maybe ditch this and work on your self esteem and what makes you happy ? You sound a little lonely but grabbing the first attention/affection that presents itself is not the way forward IMO ....take care of yourself
Hugs

I would say trust your instincts. But you say on the one hand that it’s been made clear from both this is just about sex but on the other hand you’re wondering about his motives and how much head space to give. This doesn’t seem to entirely add up if you don’t mind me saying and if it’s just sex you will need to nip the overthinking in the bud. If it’s actually more than sex you’re looking for then you’re likely to get hurt so I wouldn’t go down that path personally.

Thank you both for those comments. Yes, definitely an element of feeling rather lonely.

He's already bailed once. Since you know each other through work I'd cut my losses and be surface level friendly from here on.