Longstanding poster, NC.
I'm on my way home after an absolute shit show of a weekend with a bloke who ended up being unhinged.
I've known him for years but not closely. We have mutual friends. I thought he was a good guy.
We reconnected recently and met up a few times, it seemed to be going well. We went away for the weekend.
Night 1 was fine but night 2 (when alcohol was involved) he became unrecognisable.
I was practically babysitting him as he made a prat of himself. I wanted some space so went for a walk, he was livid when I came back as apparently I'd scared him terribly by disappearing (couldn't possibly be your behaviour could it mate?) and he went in a massive huff about that.
Then he got into an argument with the security in a bar as he'd gone in with food and was asked to leave.
He was embarrassing himself and me. I was trying to de-escalate the situation and move him on. He took issue with that and was ranting on about how I should have "stuck up" for him, on loop.
Apparently I was totally out of line and should have had his back because he had been telling me all day how important I am to him, how much he loves me (?!) and me not having his back really upset him.
Got him indoors. He kept leaving and coming back to the rental apartment, 4 or 5 times. I thought he was going to leave me there stranded (he drove us there and was supposed to be driving us back - 150 odd miles)
He comes back in again, decides to climb out of the window onto the flat roof because he wanted to go to the bar that backs onto the apartments.
He broke the blinds in the process.
Climbs back in, still going on about how much I've hurt him. Leaves again, crying. Slams the hallway door so hard it left a big hole in the wall. See picture.
In hindsight I should have left there and then but by that point it was 3am and I had nowhere to go to so decided I would just try to sleep then leave first thing and get myself on a train.
He comes back in again and starts apologising saying he doesn't want me to think he's a dick and he's very sorry. He brought up his childhood traumas to explain the emotional issues.
To don't worry about it, get some rest tomorrow is a new day.
As soon as I woke up this morning I told him I'd booked myself a train home and would be leaving alone. I didn't get the impression he was particularly embarrassed about his behaviour. He has text me twice since I left, perfectly upbeat like nothing had happened.
It goes without saying he won't be hearing from me again. It was long distance so no chance of me bumping in to him and he doesn't have my address.
Currently on the train processing wtf just happened.