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Torn on what to do?

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ThisBusyQuoter · 21/06/2025 10:00

My 18 year old son is seeing a man In his 40s from work for sex. I asked my son what happened, and he says, the man is single and made a move on him after work, they went to his place and had sex. This has been ongoing for a while, and it's killing me. I really want to tell the man to his face what a disgusting pervert he is, and tell at work about him.

What should I do?

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Disturbia81 · 21/06/2025 15:38

changedchangeychange · 21/06/2025 11:29

I'm honestly not telling you whether I think it's right or wrong. I'm pointing out reality. We're just shielded from it by organisations such as the BBC. I'm just telling you the information.

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I know you are, and I knew it already but yeah it’s disgusting. Even if the younger ones seek it out, the older ones should be the grown up and leave them alone.

ColinFuckingRobinson · 21/06/2025 16:19

I'd not be comfortable with it at all, whatever the sex of the people involved, but as he's legally an adult and expected to make adult decisions about his own life, I think it's most important to focus on maintaining a positive relationship with your DS, so that if/when he ever struggles he knows he has a safe person in you for advice and comfort. Interfering in any way against his wishes will drive a wedge between you.

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