Stressed and horrible partner

[Bradley28]

My partner has been working lots of extra hours- making his days long. Which is hard on him, but hard on everyone else as well as a knock on. I try my best to support him- do all the cooking, washing etc to help get him through. Listen and let him offload. I find it hard never really seeing him.

When he is very tired, he can be very touchy and has a short fuse. He becomes aggressive verbally and storms off for hours. I hate it when he is like this. It’s happened again tonight, with the added bonus of his making some pretty awful personal comments towards me.
Feel like I’ve had everything thrown back in my face and honestly don’t know why I put myself out for someone that clearly, when it comes down to it, doesn’t really respect me.
We are due to go away on holiday next week and I feel like I really can’t be bothered and don’t want to go away with him.
Dunno what to do.

Do you have children? If not it’s simple - dump him.

This.

If you don’t go - it’s all over, right? If you’ve already decided, then let him go alone.
So maybe if that’s not the case, then at this stage - you just go. If things don’t improve when the pressure is off, then just spend time apart, do your own thing. And talk about the logistics of how you separate when you get back.
if things start to relax and feel better, then you talk about what needs to change when you get back.

Theres the LTB option or theres maybe one small chance that he just needs to be kicked into touch. Don't make his dinner. Dont make his life easier. Don't put yourself out. He's taking you for granted and thinking he can treat you like an emotional punch bag along with housekeeper. Put a complete end to it. He gets nothing if hes unpleasant. Tell him you don't want to go on holiday with his ungrateful and rude arse and if he carries on he can f**k off entirely. Either he realises you're not his personal stress ball or he doesn't and you leave him to it.

Last nights horribleness has carried into today, culminating in being told to that he only sleeps with me because nothing better has come along and that I’m a really shit partner.

That's that finished then.

Bye, then.

Get shot of the idiot. Improve your life in one easy step

Please tell me you’ve dumped this abusive arsehole.

If I wasn’t sure before I’d definitely leave after that comment!!!

There is nothing else to be said. Just leave.

That’s one way to ensure you’ll never sleep with him again. He wants you to dump him so he doesn’t have to, how much clearer can he be that he really doesn’t like or respect you? Surely you can’t want to continue the relationship after that?
As for the holiday, who booked it? If it was you, then go on the holiday by yourself or with a friend. Cancel his flight if you think he’s going to try to come along, or change the time so you do t have to deal with scenes at the airport. But I bet you made the arrangements, and paid for it.

Wow. So do you go on the holiday alone and leave him to sort a new place to live so he’s gone by the time you get back? Or tell him to go alone? Either way , after this he’s history. Just need to decide if he moves out or you do. The only bright side is you’ve both got time off work booked, time to arrange things so you can count the hours until you’re rid of this twat. I often try to hold back from saying LTB straight away but this is one that makes me embarrassed to be a man. Just hold your head up high, show you’re better than this (not difficult!)

Disrespect on this level is an instant deal breaker op, there’s nothing else to be said to him just go. Have a great solo holiday!

You know the answer op dump this abusive twat

I would leave. You do all the housework, barely see him and then he is truly horrible to you (I'd call this more than disrespectful). After his comment about nothing better coming along, that would be the end for me, I wouldn't be able to get over that. Go and find someone better yourself sweetheart, you deserve to be loved and respected

Just end it OP - that’s an awful thing to say from him -

What horrible behaviour. Has he definitely been working in that time?
By "hard on everyone else", do you mean it's hard on you and your children?

Aww he sounds lovely, I’d just stay with him and put up with it tbh.

I would be ending it sorry, that's some unforgivable things he's said. At least now you know what he really thinks

Working long hours doesn’t create an arse when he already was / is one . You know what you need to do

He'd say what he did to anyone, to put them down. He has no self-respect so tries to make himself feel bigger and stronger by upsetting others.

Your first post was bad enough but this is beyond disgusting. He sees you as an object to be used. Get rid. He will wreck your self esteem. Surely you understand that this is something you cannot ever come back from?

Leave. Now.

And yet there you are. With him. Listening. Crying. Rinse and repeat.