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A few perspectives needed please...

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Spooky2000 · 18/06/2025 19:27

Seven months ago I ended a relationship. It was very toxic with lots of the usual traits that abusive men have and do - cheating, lying etc. When I ended it, he accused me of attacking him (classic DARVO and I posted about it on here at the time) and called the police. I was arrested then bailed, then suspended from work. When I came home my ex had stolen a number of my things including my flat keys. I told the police who asked him but he just said he didn't have them, so I changed the locks.

In May, the police contacted me to say no evidence and no further action on me - I was never charged. Two nights ago, he posted the keys through the door in an envelope. Given his allegation was NFA'd in May and it's likely he would guess I would change the locks, I find this very odd because it's weeks after the police decision and why the hell would I want the keys back after 7 months??

As an aside, I know he went back to the woman he'd cheated on me with in January (saw them out together, eating each others face).

I am baffled by the delivery of the keys and not my other things, which I accept he may not have any more. I can't work out if it's a prompt from him to get me to contact him (I wouldn't, and why would I??) or merely 'symbolic' from him (in a 'don't need these any more, ner ner ner way), which again, I find odd. Who the F would care after 7 months??

Thoughts, please? I'm just perplexed by it. Don't feel frightened or anything.

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Kinkyroots · 18/06/2025 19:28

He’s playing mind games. Ignore.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 18/06/2025 19:29

My money is on him trying to get your attention. Maybe he's split up with the other woman, maybe he's just trying his luck. Ignore him.

Largestlegocollectionever · 18/06/2025 19:31

First post nails it - try to ignore and put out of your mind.
you're well rid

Eric1964 · 18/06/2025 19:57

Maybe keep a diary of any and all contact he initiates.

GreyCarpet · 18/06/2025 20:05

You know what you're feeling now? And thinking? And wondering? And posting on here to get other perspectives?

That's why he did it.

Spooky2000 · 18/06/2025 21:06

GreyCarpet · 18/06/2025 20:05

You know what you're feeling now? And thinking? And wondering? And posting on here to get other perspectives?

That's why he did it.

Edited

Bang on, actually! 😍It's totally effing pointless what he did and there was no need to do it. It's a mindfuck, as you have all said. I have ignored and not made any contact, obviously. Thank you everyone! :)

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