I am not happy with my partner

[ToothpickLady]

I have a partner but we don't live together. Lately I am not happy with what's happening.

I am going through somewhat of a distressing situation at home with my parent. I am finding a lot of odd odd odd things. I discovered last weekend that some of my underwear was stolen from the clothes line. This wasn't the first time. I also saw some of my underwear amongst her laundry and I think she is stealing my underwear.

Recently I am finding odd things all. My mother is engaged in a huge OCD spell where she is cleaning everything in sight and dumping everything I own that is in common areas. I had some bottles in the sitting room where sometimes I like a drink or two but I am not an alcoholic. All poured away and dumped.

Recently I found a wooden chair in the recycling bin. Recyclables is like cardboard, paper, plastic. Not wooden chairs.

There is something sersiously wrong with her.

Any time I confide in my partner he laughs and tries to make jokes out of it all. There's no support from him while I am observing some distressing scenarios.

What do you think?

It does sound odd, sadly I'd probably laugh a bit too and tell you to dry your laundry somewhere more secure and hide your alcohol! Have you thought to address the odd behaviour with the person doing it? Or live somewhere else?

I read on some forums that a lot of people associate dementia with memory loss but for some people that's not what they see in their person. What they see in their person is odd behaviour.

I am concerned in relation to this and all I get is my partner laughing.

Now even the first reply to my thread.

Can you get her dr to do a welfare visit?
I assume you have spoken to your mother and she is in denial?

Sorry I've upset you, I was a bit flippant but then I found your style quite so too. You didn't mention dementia worries. Perhaps you could encourage them to visit their GP and you offer to accompany them? You don't say if you've tried to address their behaviour with them.

Your thread title is about your partner. If you’re not happy then end the relationship.
If your mother is upsetting you then you can choose to move out. Her decluttering may just be that or it may be a symptom of something else. But you can’t control her behaviour.

If you’re concerned, seek medical help.

Spring cleaning and pouring out alcohol which isn’t in a kitchen cupboard and obviously still being used, trying her luck with the contents of a recycling bin and mixing up a bit of underwear though wouldn’t necessarily give me huge concerns so fingers crossed she’s fine!