I'm 8 months out of the worst relationship that ended with the police and therapy.
A couple of weeks ago my old school friend joined Facebook again.I havent spoken to him for 4 years because he left social media. We share the same birthday and we've always got on when we were teenagers. I sent him a message to ask how he was. He's only got a very small amount of FB friends mostly male and in Common with me.
He said he lives with his cousin now and he's really cut himself off from life. His last relationship has done a number on him. He's just starting to try push himself out there again. He has 2 sons. One with his ex wife and one with his brief relationship after her. He has a really good relationship with the ex wife. It turns out he takes the other child to hers and she treats her like her own. So he spends alot of time at hers with the kids.
He went away last week abroad and alone, we kept in contact all week and he shared all his experiences with me. We talked about how happy we both felt and agreed we'd book a date in when he gets back. He's shown so much care and respect for me. Asked lots of questions and been honest.
He flew back yesterday and went to visit his son if he made it back I'm time. He sent a couple of texts then at 2pm radio silence. He messaged at, midnight saying he'd just woke up from a huge sleep. I asked this morning if he'd seen his son. He confirmed he had. So he just didn't bother saying goodnight or telling me where he was. Then he replied at 11am this morning. He's asked how I am but there's only been 2 messages. I know he was seeing his kids again today.
I can't tell if he's distancing himself. I feel hurt if he doesn't want to share small parts of his day when he's with his kids or ex. I am starting to doubt myself and if I'm being silly. But there's an 80% drop in contact and effort and it goes against all he's said. What would you do?