I am fed up with dealing with the emotional fallout caused by "family".
Firstly, DP'S dad who I have known for almost 10 years and used to be close to has just remarried. His new wife is the epitome of the evil step mother. I posted here before about not being sure if we should go to the wedding because of the crap she has thrown at us. We decided to go, but leave the DC at home. Two days before we were due to fly out we were informed I was no longer welcome.
DP went as it was a rare chance to see his extended family, but swore that was the end of contact with his dad. Lots went on at the wedding, evil stepmum ended up yelling at him to fuck off, AS SHE WAS DRIVING AWAY FROM THE CEREMONY IN HER WEDDING DRESS, CLASSY!. Needless to say he hasn't spoken to them since, but DP is devastated. This has split the rest of the family too so we are dealing with all sorts of arguements and sniping and taking sides.
As if that wasn't hard enough, my grandad has terminal bowel cancer. We were told by his consultant this week he has a matter of days. This is so hard for me as we are miles away from them but I am planning to go and see him on Sunday.
Now, my uncle, who is incredibly close to them emigrated to New Zealand with his new wife last year. His wife has many issues, she abused her ExH and almost lost her children in the divorce. Yesterday she called my mum and said 'we won't be coming to dads funeral, I know from experience mum will 'go' soon after and we can't afford the time off work and the flights for two trips so soon'. This to my mum who is dealing with the fact she has days before she loses her dad. No one has been able to speak to him and we are all worried that he doesn't agree and it is her decision. I am so angry with her.
I'm angry with the lot of them. I have a 1 year old and a two year old, I've been really run down lately with an underactive thyroid and I have my own grief to deal with, having luckily never lost someone close to me, let alone being stuck in the middle of all this toxicity.
I know no one will be able to give me any real advice, it's just cathartic to get this down.