I met someone on holiday. Hit it off immediately with him, swapped numbers and agreed to meet up after we both got back etc.
Should say, other than a kiss, nothing else happened although the conversation did turn flirty at times as the chemistry was insane.
We’d had a couple of beers in the afternoon of my last day and he was trying to persuade me to stay on another couple of days which I couldn’t do although was tempted.
I went up to my room to get showered and changed for my transfer. He came to my room just as I got out the shower and I was just standing wrapped in my towel. Didn’t feel uncomfortable as I’d been sitting round the pool with him in my bikini for most of the day anyway.
He then goes to the windows and draws the curtains, takes his top off and then comes towards me while I’m standing just in a towel and tries to pull it off me. I had to tell him at least 3 times to stop trying to yank my towel away, eventually yelling at him and then I threw him out. Took me completely by surprise and was really out of character.
He later messaged me to tell me that it wasn’t what I thought and all he wanted was to feel ‘skin on skin’ before I left. He said he drew the curtains so I wouldn’t be exposed to the people outside.
No real apology from him more him trying to make out that I’d got the wrong end of the stick.
I told him his actions were completely unacceptable and he made me feel very uncomfortable. I then blocked him. I felt sick at what could have happened.
I’m now back home and I wonder if I’ve over reacted. We were drinking albeit not heavily as I was getting my flight home, and we did get flirty and so I’m wracking my brain thinking I’ve done something to encourage him or make him think I wanted him to do that.
I’ve had experiences of gaslighting in past relationships so I can often doubt myself but that’s not right is it? Please tell me you’d have done the same?