How to say hello to the girl I like

[pegasus0916]

There is a girl I like at work, but I don't know how to say hi to her, sometimes I see her up close or from a distance, but I don't always say hi to her because I think I would look like a simp. She and I have rarely spoken, and that's why I don't feel confident saying hi to her. In fact, most of the times we've said hi to each other it's because she's told me so. I am shy and introverted. Can anybody tell me what I can do?

Don't.

So do you work with her? In contact by email? Or just think she's attractive?

If you just think she's hot but have no interactions at any point I'd leave her alone.

She works in another office that is not mine, that is why I have interacted little with her and I feel little confidence in saying hello

If she's over 18 she's a woman.

You think saying "hi" would make you look like a simp? That's really sad – I'm not saying that to be cruel, it just makes me think that you have been exposed to some unhealthy ideas.

There is a lot of really really unhelpful advice on the internet, which can make interactions between men and women seem vastly complicated and scary. They shouldn't be that way. It is not difficult to be kind and respectful towards others, whether or not you're attracted to them.

In your position I would try very hard to forget ideas about "simping" or "friend zoning" or any other internet nonsense. Try to get to know this lady, but be polite and respectful while you do it. Bear in mind that she might not be interested in getting to know you beyond basic colleague interactions at all – if that's the case, then respect that boundary and don't try to change her mind, because you won't be able to.

If she does seem to be interested in getting to know you more, then great – take it forward from there, and in due course, something deeper might develop.

I smile and say hello to almost everyone I walk past in work. It’s good manners.

Its best not to flirt with people you work with. Just practice saying hello to people and listen to how they do small talk with each other. You can do that at work and other places, like when you go shopping - social skills are like any other kind of skill, they can be learned and they take practice.

Calling someone a simp is really only online or in social settings; remember that in the workplace unwanted sexual attention is workplace harassment.

What's a simp?

I say hello or hi to almost everyone i interact with, why wouldn't you it's polite & being nice.

If you like her, she's not telepathic mate, say hello, ask her how her day is going or something. See how it goes.