Father's Day

[Pussycat02]

Hi I was meant to go for a family lunch for Father's Day with my boyfriend his daughter and his parents , we were picking his daughter up on the way , we don't live together but have been dating 3 years and I get on well with everyone , we were literally ready to go I was dressed hair make up etc and looking forward to it when he said do you mind if you dint come as she wants time with me without you , obvs if I would have known earlier I would have let it go but feel so rubbish I was just dumped from arrangement , should I be mad at him ? His daughter is 15

Well it depends on how he worded it, but I don’t see anything wrong with a Father’s Day meal being just them. It’s nice to have quality time sometimes.

OP I don’t think you’re wrong to feel upset. It is shockingly rude of your boyfriend to cancel your invitation at the last minute like that. If his daughter had said from the start she wanted lunch to be just the two of them then that’s one thing, but if she changed her mind last minute then your boyfriend should have made it clear that cancelling your invitation was out of the question.

I’m actually cross on your behalf about this!

Honestly, I think you probably shouldn't have planned to go in the first place, but I understand being annoyed at the last minute change

Its out of order to change plans when you’ve gone through the whole faff of getting ready, I’d be pissed off, he should have told you sooner xx

This. If he's otherwise great I would say that you'll give him a pass this time, but this is NEVER to happen like that again.
If he is flaky often in relation to his daughter, I'd have a deeper think about it all.

This, imo. Unless you had been invited.

I can totally understand why you’re upset but I would give him a pass on this one. Teenage years can be tough. It’s so important that his DD has uninhibited access to her father.
I’m not suggesting you would come between them, but she may just need some time with him without feeling conscious of anyone else. She may have only spoken up last minute or he may have sensed it late on. Either way it sounds like he did the right thing by his DD, which is presumably what you would want.

I think he handled it really really badly. Probably shouldn’t have invited you really. But incredibly rude to cancel you last minute. He would have been better to promise his daughter another day just with her. And after all it was his day technically not hers…

Hi thank you all for response , originally when he asked me I said Mabe just take her but he said no would be lovely if you came too , I just peed off that I was dressed and let down last minute and wondered if I was overreacting

I hope he’s offered to make it up to you