Family feels broken

[mousey100]

How do you create a harmonious family environment when your relationship is in trouble? Have 9 and 12 year olds who are bickering and falling out all of the time. I'm sure this is not helped by husband and I 'tolerating' each other but not really being together any more. We are having counselling but it's moving very slowly. I just don't have the patience to maintain this every single weekend. We don't have many friends that we can hang out with at the weekend and the kids have no clubs on, so we're often all together for the most part. It's exhausting. We can't really afford to reinstate more clubs, but I wonder if this is the only way to get some structure back in. I feel like everything is such hard work atm but I know I need to make some changes. Just don't know what. Open to suggestions though!

Can you do some things separately, get some one on one time with parents and parents get a break from each other.

Op you need some structure over weekend for the children, you need to have a plan for Saturday and Sunday morning, children will bicker if there restless, so walk in the park, children on there bikes burn some energy off they won't bicker as much then,
Swimming all of you just for an hour, hot chocolate, honestly makes such a difference to their mindset when they are stimulated, this gives you some time later on in day to do things with out checking up on children so much,
Many out doors things to do with out it costing, but children will be better for it, you could then take one of them for a milk shake and catch up ' chance to talk ' while leaving other child with dad for hour or so, you may find weekends and definitely your evening over weekends just might be more enjoyable,

Saturday for us was picnic night, and movie children took it in turns to pick movie, picnic on floor, the children loved it, popcorn/ marshmallows/ chocolates , was a treat night, my grown up children do this now with gc,