Is this abusive or hubby just flooded?

[Carlou]

Last weekend hubby got angry and huffed and puffed cos I asked him to fix an internal door that had been problematic for 5 months. We had people coming the next day for lunch and I wanted a proper door we could go in/out of the lounge with not one that got a little stuck. He got angry saying this was the first time I'd mentioned it (no.. I just stopped mentioning it after the first half dozen weekends!)..He got so angry he locked me out of the house. After leaving me in verandah for 10 mins he then let me in. Didn't apologize. Then something else happened. Was making tea and wasn't able to find my kitchen knife that I always use. When I asked him about it as he had done the dishes earlier he then replied that he had "put it away". I looked but couldn't find it in the usual spot and requested he get it for me. He opened a high cupboard I rarely use (it's too high for me) and got out the knife. I asked why he'd hidden it and he said "we have a grandchild coming soon. You didn't put the knife on the bench far enough away and little fingers could get it. I gave you time to change that but you didn't so I decided to teach you a lesson". I was flabbergasted! What do you think of this behaviour Mumsnet?

He’s a knob.
Has he always been like that or is he getting worse?
Life is too short to be living like that!

You can't live with a man like that. Make plans.

@Carlou is there a reason you left it for 5 months and didn't do it yourself. If I waited on my hubby to fix everything I point out I'd be waiting a long time, hence why if I see something I do it myself. Although if there is a problem with the car he expects me to fix it as he doesn't have a clue on cars.

How old is he? Sounds like he’s losing his marbles.

Well, that sounds abusive to me.

Of course it’s abusive, OP, and the fact that you don’t just know this suggests that similar things have been going on for years. If there are grandchildren, then presumably you have been married for a long time? This strikes me as very sad.
Is he ever physically abusive?

Move into the spare room, live your life, ignore him

If this is a big change in behaviour I’d be keeping an eye out for other ‘unusual’ attitudes or behaviours and consider consulting a health professional.

Is this behavior new? Make sure you keep your phone on you at all times in case he locks you out again.
Are your guests likely to pick up on your husband's mood? Might be worth thinking about meeting them somewhere else if he's going to make them uncomfortable with his strange passive aggressive behavior.

How o
d is he and you? You talk about grandkids?
how long have you been togther, and has he ever done anything like this before…

normally I’d say, yep that’s certainly getting out of hand, and if he does anything else other than this one day then yep, it’s a pattern of abuse

but if you’ve been together for 35 years, in your 60s and it’s first time he’s ever done something like that, then you’re looking at a potential issue related to mental health.

He doesn't sound well to be honest.

Is this part of a pattern over the years or is this something new? If so he needs help.

I can understand him saying "I am a bit worried about that sharp knife near the children. Is there somewhere we can put it so they are safe?" - but all this teaching you a lesson stuff is totally out of order.

I agree with others. You said you were flabbergasted, so is this all completely out of character? If not, and he’s always been abusive, or it’s escalating, don’t waste the rest of your life with this man. You only live once. If he’s usually lovely and this has come out of the blue then it’s possible something medical is going on as others have said.

I would be ringing Women's aid for a chat.
He sounds abusive and unhinged.