Guy i've been dating says this - what does he mean?

[moonandstars22]

Been dating for 3 months. 35 y/o and 34 y/o. He hasn't had a relationship for more than 5 years.

We were discussing what we are after 3 months, we are currently exclusive. He says he wants to be in a relationship, but hes finding it hard to get closer and be more open.

What does he mean? Everything has been great so far, great dates, personalitys seem to match, sex good. But im wondering if saying that is a bad sign.

So what is involved in "making a relationship official"? Do his friends know about you? If not, that tells you what you need to know.

Yes, but I haven't met them yet. He hasn't suggested it. I haven't met family members either

It's still early days just give things a bit longer.

A diffeoutlook to some.
Some men, well people, do keep closed. I've been with DH for over 15 years and still he sometimes finally pops out that he likes x, not y🤦 He is joy a sharer in any way. If you would work with him you would have no idea about his life.
He is very much into me. I mean like ove r 15 years, obviously.

It may qell be that he has hard time opening ip and is telling you that because some wx couldn't deal with closed person. Many people can't.
Funnily I am an absolute oversharer😂

I think he's starting with the subtle 'I don't want to get serious' spiel.

Well I'd assume if he's struggling to be open there is something in his past that he is keeping quiet about and is wary about opening up to you about it (could be absolutely anything, maybe he's got kids he hasn't told you about, he has a criminal history, he's in love with his ex, he's into kinky sex who knows but there is something he hasn't told you.

He means he's emotionally unavailable, but he's going to string you along and enjoy the sex for as long as you'll allow him to. If you object or point out that the relationship isn't progressing he'll remind you that you knew he was finding it hard to open up and get closer.

I would be cautious and take what he says at face value.

i would reevaluate your situation at the 6 month mark.. if your gut is saying no… let let him go. Don’t waste time with serial commitmentphob