How to get out...

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So situation is... I live in a house solely under my husband’s name (he pays all bills) but I have contributed to things in the house.

I gave up full time work to have our two kids who are 9 and 3. I now work part time 3 days. We done share a bank account so he always seems to have loads of money and I struggle every month.

Anyway things have been horrific for a while bus steadily getting worse and recently ive realised my mental health is so bad. So now im trying to get out. Ive applied for a council house, he works away two weeks but when hes back he's horrific- putting me down, moaning at me, calling me names, telling me to shut up. Just generally being horrible. He likes a drink and will drink numerous days over the 14 hes home. He spends most of his time home on his phone and I dont get much help anyway.

Im at a loss of what to do next as I have no where to go and no family close by.

Anyone been in this situation before that can help?

He sounds horrible.
Have a look at ‘entitled to’ and see what benefits you could get as a single mum.
I would plan on working full time, you’ll get help with your childcare costs.
As you’re married, you’ll be entitled to a share of the equity in the house and a share of any savings or pensions he has.
If I were you, next time he’s away, try and find any documents you can that give info on savings/pensions/mortgage etc
Book an appt with a solicitor, many will offer a short free consultation and you can get an idea of where you stand.
Living wise, I think you can stay in the house until it’s sold or he buys you out. But the solicitor can advise you.

You're married, so it doesn't make any difference if the house is in his sole name or not. All property, savings, investments, pensions etc regardless if in his sole name, joint or your sole name, are classed as 'joint assets'. Unless he's in a position to buy you out, then the likelihood is the property would need to be sold, so the equity can be split. See what benefits you can claim as a single Mum. Look into working full-time and see what help you would receive for childcare. When your husband is away next, gather as much financial documents as you can, and take copies. Most solicitors offer a free half an hour, so take documents with you and see how you stand. They can advise on the divorce process too.

Contact a domestic abuse organisation such as Refuge, National Domestic Abuse helpline or your local organisation and have a chat about your relationship which is abusive.

Contact Rights of Women, look at wikivorce, the CABx website and arm yourself with knowledge regarding divorce.

Gather as much info as possible re finances such as wages, insurance, pensions.

Try Turn2us for information on benefits and other financial help.

Contact Shelter, contact your council housing department and make enquiries re housing.

You can also contact the financial abuse helpline
https://survivingeconomicabuse.org/what-we-do/financial-support-line/

Its so annoying as well as even if things are awful and he tells me to leave which I think happened 3 times the last two weeks he was home he will then act like everything is okay and im like how..

Im trying to find a solicitor and ive told the housing my situation although they dont seem to bother.

I know what id be entitled too as ive worked that out.

I honestly have no idea where he keeps any of his documents