Girlfriend is stressing me out

[Fishermun]

House is a mess all the time, she spends no time doing things with our daughter, I pay all the bill make breakfast and cook tea every day yet she wont wash the pots or do any house work

What made you select this woman as the mother of your child, OP?

Is it possible she’s depressed? Has she always behaved like this? Are there any positives in the relationship?

She certainly doesn't sound like a happy bunny, does she?

She sounds awful. If the genders were reversed the comments on here would be unanimous in telling you to bin him.

Look into getting custody of the child as based on what you’ve said that is by far the best option for them.

She sounds incredibly lazy and self obsessed.🤷‍♀️

Well i dunno to be honest kind of just happened we meet not long before covid happened then lockdown kicked in was both out of work so nothing much to really do and we slept together a bunch over the next 6-8month found out she was pregnant so she pretty much just moved in at that point been here noe like 6 years ish

I’d be very tempted to just buy me and DD something to eat on the way home from nursery. If she wants food she can go to the shop when you ask

"Working's not for her'. Wow, She thinks you are her meal ticket. If she genuinely isn't doing anything in the home and she's not suffering from clinical depression then I suggest you see a solicitor.

Your dd will be at school in the autumn. Check on wrap around care and what you would need if your girlfriend was no longer around.

Make your plans. When you are clear how it could work, sit your gf down and have a blunt chat with her. Don't let it go on too long. If you already do most hands on care, your dd is unlikely to miss her much.

“Working isn’t for me” 😳 She needs to pull her finger out - or leave.
There are many women (like myself) who manage to work full-time, keep a tidy home and manage all of the admin that goes with it and still make the effort to be attentive, present Mums.
Unless she has a seriously debilitating mental health condition, it sounds like your partner is just a couch potato and doesn’t really contribute anything. She is basically another child that you have to provide for. It may be best for everyone to go forward as a single parent.

This isn’t a family, or even a relationship.

I’d say she needs to get her act together or leave, but it doesn’t even sound like you’re particularly bothered about her from a romantic perspective, so I’d just call it a day.

Sounds really sad. She doesn't want to be a part of your family from the looks of things. Just wants to lollop around at home.

Speak to her about her moving out. It seems you can manage without her anyway.

Does she interact with your daughter at all?

No not really unless some one other then me is there to see it then she super attentive DD do you need a drink DD do you want some snacks not food but snacks DD look at mommy's phone isn't this funny and it makes me so sad because soon as no-one is around she just like go away DD mommy is busy go watch your tablet, and if DD knocks something over or makes lound noise she screams at her the way she goes at DD some times makes me super pi**ed off

She needs to get to the doctor and he checked out for illness that couod make her so tired. Iron deficiency, longcovid, depression, chronic fatigue.

ifshes clear of those I’d be telling her i no longer respect her and she can beat it. Youd find thing easier alone with your child. Less mess. I'd go 50/50 custody or even more. You can’t live in a shite hole with a lazy arse who is supposed to be a role model to a child.

Because men can't possibly have full custody of their children while women can? Or if homosexual couple have a child together then that child belongs to biological parent and the other one can just simply move out even if they are stay at home mum? You're making a lot of unfair assumptions there.

Get a weekly cleaner

Little harder for men to get custody, mostly due to the woman been the one who spent the most time with the child and courts see that as she is then the main caregiver for the child, luckily but sadly it was mostly left to me to care for my daughter, night feed nappy changing bathing getting her to sleep getting her to start eating toilet training honesty can't remember her mom doing anything but give birth to her and even then she opted for a c section and I had to give her belly injection every day for i can't remember how long and clean her cut 3 or 4 times aday

This whole situation sounds horrible for everyone involved. She obviously checked out of, not only your relationship, but parenting your child completely. You need to decide if this is how you want to continue living or if you’re going to ask her to leave. Does she have anywhere else to go? What does she do all day when you’re at work and daughter at nursery?

There’s nothing wrong with any woman choosing to opt for a c section. Having major abdominal surgery isn’t a lazy option.

Any chance she is depressed?
was she always so inactive? Or is it a postpartum/new attitude?

It' was her choice dont mind it so much, I guess she felt been cut open was a better option then pushing a watermelon out of a lemon, I took care of her though it all, maybe thats where she started been lazy thinking this is the life il lay here an he can wait on my hand an foot x̌x

Il try suggesting for her to see a dr but I do feel she will just have a goŕ

Yea, I’m out.

Is anyone getting the selfish girlfriend that doesn’t do anything from this post and her whining about not being appreciated. I’m guessing this is her boyfriend.

How on earth did you get all that from my misreading a screen name? Talk about assumptions...jeez. 😂

Not from you misreading the screen name. From you saying her being a biological mother would affect the outcome.

Surely she had a job before COVID lockdown?