Feeling like a basket case

[lemonbabe]

Been in a relationship for 9 years. I’m 55 with 2 teenage kids. Tried blending our families which was beyond disastrous. I had to parent for both parties as he had no parenting skills whatsoever. He never backed me up always let everything go ignored no matter how bad then asked me and my kids to move out to save him being forced to parent. I perhaps stupidly kept faith in my man and our relationship. A year later I’ve had enough. He promised a family life, marriage etc but couldn’t/would’t back any of it up. I’m now recovering from breast cancer and have decided that’s it. The straw that broke the camels back … He forgot our anniversary last year and again this year. Perhaps I wouldn’t have been bothered but last year with the emotional and physical weight of moving me and the kids and 3 months ago discovering I had cancer I’m like -really ?!!! Is this it for me ?? Expressed my frustrations, disappointments etc and now I feel like a pile of $h!/. Hopefully with time I’ll feel more confident in my decision, right now I feel like a total loser 🙁

You're not a loser. You're a survivor and you've made the right decision.

It wasn't working out.

You’ll feel much better once you’re done with him. Good luck with everything 😊

Thanks ladies for your support. Hate feeling this way but at the same time I’m flogging a dead horse. It hurts to think that at my most vulnerable he still can’t pull things off. I suppose that’s testament to the quality of this relationship !

Bloody hell lass you’re a strong woman! That would have defeated a lot of people and you’ve kept going. You deserve a man to match. If he cant at least get you a bunch of flowers on your anniversary after the year you’ve had then fuck him. He’s far too engrossed in his own problems and he’s behaving selfishly.

Celebrate when you’re single - it might feel hard at first but that’s only because it’s different and you’re adjusting. I think you’ll realise quite quickly it’s actually much easier and more peaceful. And she is just a number - it’s better to be without a shit partner than with them.

Thanks NamechangeJunebaby I guess it has been a lot to take on, certainly feels that way. I guess the difficult part of moving has been dealt with already. I’m just realising how badly I’ve come off on most everything. My fault I should have realised long ago !