He’s gone again and I don’t know what to tell the kids

[BluntMumOfLots85]

I’ve been lurking a while but this is my first post

I don’t even know where to start really

He walked out again this morning. Said he was going to the shop and just didn’t come back. He’s done this before but never on a school day. No message no call. Took his vape and his charger so I know he’s not just nipped out

Youngest has been screaming since lunch and my 11yo is asking me if he’s left again. I don’t know what to say to them

He did the same thing in March and was gone two nights. Said he needed headspace and then came back like nothing happened. I let it go because I had too much else on. I’m doing everything here and he acts like I’m the problem

I’ve got 6 kids and one has extra needs. I’m barely keeping on top of things as it is. He doesn’t even sleep here half the time. Leaves his stuff everywhere then goes all moody if I ask him to help

I don’t have loads of support. My family is not involved and I don’t have mates I can really talk to about this

I feel like I’m going mad. Like I’m the only one seeing this isn’t normal

What would you do? Do I just text him and say not to bother coming back? Or wait and see if he actually turns up?

Sorry for the long post. Just needed to get it out somewhere.

Well done for seeing this clearly. Put his stuff in a bin bag, put the chain on the door if you have one.

Life will be so much easier when you have control of this.

So, you've been off an on for a couple of years, he doesn't live there but has a few bits lying around and he's fathered 2 children with you but takes no responsibility - financial or otherwise? Have some self respect for your children's sakes if nothing else! What example are they being set? He's got a key (why??) so just change the locks and leave his toothbrush in the porch. Good luck 👍

You tell them he’s gone. I will never understand why women try and protect men in these situations. He’s an arse. Let them know he’s an arse. End of.