Hot and cold

[Charliebear322]

Does it always mean they have someone else if they’re hot one day and cold the next. I can feel it when he’s detaching one day and then he gets closer another day. He is autistic

In my experience yes. Or they are battling feelings.

It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re cheating but imo it’s a red flag that they’re not a good partner

It might not mean that but it's a big red flag

He is Mr Wrong and not good relationship material. You are not a rehab centre for some badly raised man either so do not use yourself as such.

They could have an avoident attachment style, rather than another woman but in my experience this is a complete nightmare and ended up being more damaging to my self confidence than when a partner has actually cheated. Second guessing and treading on eggshells - in your shoes I'd run for the hills

He's autistic so his way of relating to you and the world will be different. Has he had a diagnosis and discussed it with you. Personally don't think its a sign hes not into you but you need to talk

Don’t waste anymore time on someone who is doing this to you

Don't let the autism get in the way of you realising that this man is not for you.

What does it look like when he has gone “cold” on you?

It hes emotionally avoiding it will be hard work for you, you'll never get the validation you need. Speaking from experience.

It doesn't necessarily mean anything... except tht they'are not a good partner.

it Is a control tactic - I bet you find yourself doing all sorts of things/not doing things in a desperate attempt to head off any detachment periods?