Mother insulted daughter.

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Some time ago while I was visiting my mother, she and my six year old daughter had a bit of a set-to. My daughter didn’t like the way she was being spoken to (my mother had made my daughter cry on a previous visit) so she called her by her first name.
This infuriated my mother who then called her a ‘little b*tch’ and told her she did not want to visit her again. I heard all of this as did my son.
Anyway, we left immediately and I was expecting a call and an apology. None came. That was four years ago and she is now 85.
I want to get this sorted out so we can move on but she refuses to apologise. I really don’t know what to do.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Wtf am I reading on here?

She was six.

Imagine not talking to your family for years because a six year old was ‘cheeky’?

She’s hardly setting a great example is she

Your dd was six. Cheeky, yes. Intentionally rude, probably not, pushing boundaries knowingly, probably.
An adult, who supposedly loves her, calls her a bitch…….that’s not ok….
It really should have been dealt with at the time but seeing as it wasn’t and it’s been festering for years you have to deal with it now….. or not!
You have to decide what you want.
I doubt you’ll get an apology. Do you want a relationship with your dm going forward or are you happy with this stalemate?
This is to do with your relationship with your mother. Your dd will probably never have a meaningful one now

You mention that before that visit, your mother made your daughter cry: what happened?

“You little bitch,” is a dreadful thing for a grown adult to say to a child.

Unfortunately your mother sounds like a very difficult and emotionally inept woman.

People like that don’t usually ever apologise 💐

Your daughter was SIX. Your mother massively overreacted to a cheeky comment, all your daughter needed was reminding not to call grandparents by their first name (obviously an old fashioned opinion).
If my mother treat my little girl like that over a bit of cheek and previously made her cry, I wouldn’t bother until she at least was nice to her and apologised to my daughter for calling her a B. Your mother’s old enough to know better.

Well, your mother shouldn’t have said what she did. But when did 6 year olds start throwing their weight around about how they wanted to be spoken to? 🤷‍♀️🙄

That was not the OPs child. As if a six year old child could throw their weight around anyway.

An apology either way after four years is neither here nor there - how sad to make your whole relationship with your mother hang on that. She has reached out to you. Surely you're going to reply to her letter and resume a relationship. You can either discuss what happened years ago or simply move on.

His mother has likely reached out because she wants something now from the OP, be it his help or time etc. it’s likely to be no olive branch.

She also started this and why should someone who made a six year old child cry get a further chance to potentially put the boot in. ops mother hates his ex wife too and the child cops it as a result.