Should I go on that date yes or no?

[Kenyaparks]

So I’ve been chatting with this man for almost a month now. My schedule has been super busy with no free time. He’s planned to take me on a date several times but again my schedule was booked. I took some time off so we have a date planned this week.

Im not liking his communication style, when we first started talking he would call me out the blue randomly without me having to ask. He even called me when he was on his vacation. He still texts me daily first thing in the morning and throughout the day. Yet he hasn’t called in a week or so ? I’m not a texter I’m more of a phone person. No you don’t have to call me everyday 24/7 but a few times out the week is preferable for me. I recently brought this to his attention and he responded by saying “I’m not really a phone person, but I’ll try for you.”I’ve been texting you everyday”, I’ll make sure to call you tomorrow”. Which confuses me cause how did you go from calling me randomly on vacation and on your way to work… Yet all of a sudden you’re not a phone person?

Tomorrow came and no call from him just a text telling me good morning ….. I can’t really get upset cause we’re not in a relationship yet nor have we met in person. Yet there’s things that I like which is phone calls and I feel like that’s bare minimum.

Im not sure if I should give him a chance and at least go to dinner with him or to just cut it off ?

he’s been sending me texts telling me he’s counting the days down, asking me if I’m still excited to see him etc. Lots of good talking from him I don’t really believe it’s sincere… Lots of future talking, about trips, me moving in ….

Lots of future talking, about trips, me moving in …

Well, (1) he sounds like a total loon, and (2) you haven't even met but you're already irritated by his communication style, so no, you shouldn't go on the date.

I mean, he might be the loveliest man on earth but he’s talking about you moving in before you’ve even met?! 😳

No he’s sounds OTT most definitely trying to love bomb you, he doesn’t mean a word of it as he’s never met you.
You want to go at a more slower pace, it’s already not working for you
Only go on a date, when you don’t feel pressured, they aren’t taking too much of your time and more importantly you looking forward to it rather than feeling hesitant, from experience my dates never went well when I wasn’t sure.

Trips, moving in - before you’ve even met?

I would meet him to see if you like him, but stop any talk about holidays or moving in, way too soon. Does he work?

There are lots of red flags here re him and there are plenty of these chancers online. You are being both future faked and love bombed.

Do not go on any date with this person but block him instead.

If you already have relationship issues before you’ve ever met and when you’re not in a relationship, things aren’t going to work out…!

Could you not call him? It's not the mans responsibility to do the calling. The talk of moving in together without having even met is bizarre though.

The reason I asked if he works is because he could be a potential cocklodger looking for someone to sponge off. If you're a homeowner don't tell him, make him think you rent, though I'll probably get people telling me that doesn't put off cocklodgers.

We were on ft one day and he was complaining about a headache and told me he didn’t want to talk? Little stuff like that throws me off, yet he still wants to take me out. At the point I’m good.

I was going to say maybe he's fed up with you not committing to a date but then you mentioned the moving in etc. Don't bother !

This.

If there's doubt, there's no doubt. Walk away.

Why don’t you ring him? All sounds a bit much really considering you haven’t even met yet

This is so weird. 100% inappropriate and definitely love bombing to be talking about moving in together, how excited he is etc before you've even met. So I'd throw him back for that alone.

I concede that I might be terribly old fashioned, but I honestly don't understand this thing where you're talking constantly before you've even met. I mean sure, if you're meetng online there's a bit of chat and banter before you agree whether or not you want to meet but to me, that's the equivalent of meeting at a party, having a flirt and a chat and then at the end of it swapping numbers, having one call or a bit of online chat to arrange a date, then I'd expect largely not much communication until we actually met. I can't think of anything worse than someone I've never met in person calling me on their way to work or sending good morning text messages.

So I personally would be throwing him back for this level of communication too. But maybe that's what you like.

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I've no idea why I've wished you Happy Birthday OP, unless it actually is your birthday. If not, then Happy Birthday for whenever it is.

Update
I got a call from a woman on a blocked number asking me if I live in such and such location. Asking me if I’m talking to her boyfriend ? I couldn’t get her or his name so I just hung up. This has never happened to me, yet it so happens to happen when I’m talking to him ? This was yesterday

We do live 2 hours apart, I’m currently in his city for an event. He wanted to drive to where I live last weekend and get a room I declined due to me already going to be near him today. We had a date planned tonight he’s been texting me days leading up to it. Telling me how he can’t wait to see me etc. So today comes and his communication is foggy. He worked today so he was supposed to go home after work and then get ready for our date.

He kept pushing back the time and asked if he could just see me tomorrow I declined cause I’m leaving tomorrow. Anyways he ended up canceling the date a hour before cause he said “he’s on standby for his work and their calling him in right now” , that he could see me but it would be 3 hours later which is at 10:00pm. Wouldn’t get on the phone with me due to him taking to his boss and crew employees……. Said he would drive out to me this weekend just to give him a chance…. He sent me a video of him the next morning of him at work with his gear on “talking about, I’m still at work I’m not lying to you”

The man is blocked and the door is closed how dare you sit there and play with me like that.