Stonewalling /ghosting by new partner

[Lottiesnanny]

Only been together 5 months Long distance relationship I travel over 250 miles every month to see him…at great cost . Now a few times he has given me the silent treatment when he didn’t Like what I said silly things normally over text and he would ignore me for hours on end
We had words and i told him not to ghost me because i worry normally that some accident has befallen him ( ptsd /anxiety from sudden death of son. Yesterday my older son in Australia told me he has bought me a ticket to go see him and my daughter In Law and grand daughter for two weeks in sept … They have no idea I am seeing someone because it’s very early days . Told my partner about my pending visit and was met with silence all day and all night I knew he was ghosting me so don’t pursue it .
This morning though I asked why he hadn’t answered my text and his reply was he was disappointed he wasn’t asked to go . His punishment for not asking him immediately was the silent treatment… And he is still giving me the silent treatment..
I have decided to end it with him because I deserve better than emotional isolation…. I was married to a narcissist for 10 years and he did this stonewalling crap I can’t do it again …
I am definitely not over reacting am I?

In the 90s, when I was very much younger and "stupider" I did all the legwork from Spain to Greece for 5 years, when I got fed up and said your turn, he was horrified. That was my clarity moment. When I met DH, he lived on the other side of the the country to me. We travelled alternate weekends to each other, we shared from the get go. That´s when I considered he was a keeper. My male cousin did all the legwork too, half way across the country, he was also younger and stupider, then the girl in question moved even further away and expected HIM to continue to do all the travelling. He had had enough. That was his clarity moment. It is either shared or it won´t work.

Congratulations on regaining your freedom and sanity!

Now do The Freedom Programme so you ditch abusive men like him a lot sooner

I'm doing this in my current relationship as I have kids at home and he doesn't. For me its like a minibreak every weekend as he lives in a beautiful place, he cooks for me and looks after me. I don't have to life a finger. My contribution is the travelling. We also meet midweek in the city centre which is equidistant for both of us for dates.

you are in another emotionally abusive relationship - (just reading re. your narcissist former partner)

This is emotional abuse. Please get support/ counselling to look at the pattern and get far away from this man.

Don't be so sexist! Why not share it according to circumstances and ability?

No, you’re not overreacting. You made the right decision.

Can’t stand sulking. abusive behaviour.

Plus, why do you always travel to him??

Oh, he’s an emotionally abusive, sulky prick. Everything you’ve described is a massive red flag. Dump him.

The silent, sulky treatment is just vile. Bin this loser today. 🤢

I'm getting same treatment from my partner of 10 years. It's soul destroying and exhausting. Good on you to put yourself first. Absolute entitlement to expect an invitation to visit someone in Australia you have never met. Go and have a fab time in OZ. His loss xx

He is an absolute disgrace and will get worse as time goes by. You've done the right thing ending it.