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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 02:18

If someone you considered a friend and got on quite well with suddenly blocked you on WhatsApp would you try to find out why or would using oh well it's not worth it and move on

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 02:22

I think it might be best to just move on because it's a height of bad manners to just block someone without telling them why and if someone can do this they are not worth knowing

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MrBlobbyScaresMe · 09/06/2025 02:22

Depends how good of a friend, I'd probably try and find out why.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 02:22

I think it might be best to just move on because it's a height of bad manners to just block someone without telling them why and if someone can do this they are not worth knowing

Also agree with this, they obviously didn't value you or the friendship, it's a pretty cold way to do it.

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 09/06/2025 02:31

If they were a very good friend my first assumption would be mistake/hacked/lack of technical knowledge.

MarxistMags · 09/06/2025 02:37

I'd be thinking, stuff you, you'll need me long before I'd ever need you.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 02:43

All I can assume is that she is busy and does not want to be disturbed and if that's the case why doesn't she just say I'm busy for a while but when things settle down I will contact you. Apparently somebody did that to her and they said that they couldn't speak to her for a while four years later they're still haven't spoken to her so I said I don't think they're going to after all this time

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 02:53

MarxistMags · 09/06/2025 02:37

I'd be thinking, stuff you, you'll need me long before I'd ever need you.

But we have been friends for 42 years

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MarxistMags · 09/06/2025 03:04

Then that is VERY strange. I would phone or text your friend to make sure all is well with them.

BaguetteLady · 09/06/2025 03:05

42 years is a long time!
Was there anything recently that didn't feel right?

In answer to your question, I would probably just try to work it out myself. I wouldn't take it up with her.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 03:05

Somebody said that if I have been blocked and can't get through on the phone then try writing a letter to say how disgusted I am with her behavior and that that is not the behavior of a friendship spanning 42 years. I did actually end a friendship a couple of years ago when I thought that things were not going as well as they could be so I told your friend that I thought we should move on and the particular friend agreed but I would never ever just blank someone out of the blue and ghost them online because this is what is happened to me I have been ghosted

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 03:48

MarxistMags · 09/06/2025 03:04

Then that is VERY strange. I would phone or text your friend to make sure all is well with them.

We may have been friends for 42 years but lately we've drifted and we weren't as close as we were when we first met and people change and grow and do different things and that's what's happened to us and I think we just stay in touch out of habit modern anything because we heard you ever meet up and we're not that close anymore

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Whistledown2 · 09/06/2025 04:18

I’m not a ‘block-delete’ kind of person but I blocked my ‘friend’ a couple of months ago. I’ve known her 15 ish years. We are not regular talkers but we are fairly good friends or so I thought. I had sent WA messages that were ‘read’ and not responded to many times. Then a text out of the blue “I’m not ignoring you” hmmm..
benefit of the doubt, responded immediately telling her I’d had a very shitty year and was quite low. Message ‘read’ and no response for over a month, so shes blocked because shes no friend. I don’t want to see/speak to her again. I am happy with that decision.

I am sick to death of flimsy mates.

FreshPrinceofKildare · 09/06/2025 04:24

If a good friend with no obvious reason. I would assume it is a mistake, but I would t bother chasing. I’m also done with flimsy mates, if I have done something to warrant a block, I would know. So if someone has flounced off over something petty, they can get on with it.

MsDDxx · 09/06/2025 09:39

PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 03:48

We may have been friends for 42 years but lately we've drifted and we weren't as close as we were when we first met and people change and grow and do different things and that's what's happened to us and I think we just stay in touch out of habit modern anything because we heard you ever meet up and we're not that close anymore

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Then what’s the issue?

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 10:03

Whistledown2 · 09/06/2025 04:18

I’m not a ‘block-delete’ kind of person but I blocked my ‘friend’ a couple of months ago. I’ve known her 15 ish years. We are not regular talkers but we are fairly good friends or so I thought. I had sent WA messages that were ‘read’ and not responded to many times. Then a text out of the blue “I’m not ignoring you” hmmm..
benefit of the doubt, responded immediately telling her I’d had a very shitty year and was quite low. Message ‘read’ and no response for over a month, so shes blocked because shes no friend. I don’t want to see/speak to her again. I am happy with that decision.

I am sick to death of flimsy mates.

I hear you. I have a friend who never contacts me. Its all one sided with me contacting her. Again friends dont behave like that. I didnt contact her for 2 months once just to see if she would realise and contact me but she didnt. I eventually contacted her and she said oh i havent heard from you in a long time. I was goung to contact you. I didnt believe her because its not in her nature to make contact

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ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 09/06/2025 10:12

Somebody said that if I have been blocked and can't get through on the phone then try writing a letter to say how disgusted I am with her behavior and that that is not the behavior of a friendship spanning 42 years.

I wouldn’t do that, because there’s no way back from a harsh comment like that.

Do you have friends in common? Maybe ask if she’s okay with them?

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 10:28

MsDDxx · 09/06/2025 09:39

Then what’s the issue?

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I can only assume that she's maybe lost her phone because I've tried ringing a few times including dressed now and a phone just rings and usually she would answer

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Whistledown2 · 09/06/2025 13:34

@PerkyOchrePeerPersonally I think text messaging should be kept to things like ‘I’m running late’ or ‘the date/time is’ etc. Conversations and ‘how are yous’ are worthy of a phone call (but fine if you are in very very regular contact with a person) At least you can hear a tone of voice which detects genuine and sincere contact. People will say “I don’t have time for that” well back in the day that’s all we had and it was manageable. Text messaging is a cop out, and leaves a huge percentage of folk feeling insecure and uncared for.

think you have to put this one down to experience. The shift of relationships in life, it happens. Hope you’re ok..

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 16:14

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 09/06/2025 10:12

Somebody said that if I have been blocked and can't get through on the phone then try writing a letter to say how disgusted I am with her behavior and that that is not the behavior of a friendship spanning 42 years.

I wouldn’t do that, because there’s no way back from a harsh comment like that.

Do you have friends in common? Maybe ask if she’s okay with them?

No we do not have friends in common because over the years we have just gone our own ways with socialising but we have always kept in contact

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 16:19

I think I said somewhere in this thread that maybe have phone is lost because she doesn't seem to be picking up whenever I try to ring or return my call and she's blocked me for a week and a half so if her phone is lost then he won't have the phone with her to unblock me or to answer a phone call

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 16:24

She lives in my area so soon or later I will bump into her somewhere whilst shopping in Waitrose or Sainsbury's because that's where we usually go and then she will see me and say oh hello and explained herself but until then I'm just going to get on with my life

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OchreRaven · 09/06/2025 18:26

I really wouldn’t overthink it. One of my closest friends blocked me a long time ago.

We were like sisters growing up. She made quite a few bad life choices and I was always cleaning up her messes. She cheated on her bf at the time who I was friends with, got a new job, new friends and just stop responding to my messages. Then she blocked me on Facebook. I got the message and deleted her number. Never spoke to her again.

I realised it was more about her than me. I was getting married and buying a house. She had blown up her life and wanted to start again without anyone who remembered her past behaviour. As soon as she was out of my life it actually felt like a huge relief. I saw her once in Ikea and she hid behind some furniture 😂.

Don’t go trying to read her mind. Let it go and live a great life without her.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 09/06/2025 21:21

OchreRaven · 09/06/2025 18:26

I really wouldn’t overthink it. One of my closest friends blocked me a long time ago.

We were like sisters growing up. She made quite a few bad life choices and I was always cleaning up her messes. She cheated on her bf at the time who I was friends with, got a new job, new friends and just stop responding to my messages. Then she blocked me on Facebook. I got the message and deleted her number. Never spoke to her again.

I realised it was more about her than me. I was getting married and buying a house. She had blown up her life and wanted to start again without anyone who remembered her past behaviour. As soon as she was out of my life it actually felt like a huge relief. I saw her once in Ikea and she hid behind some furniture 😂.

Don’t go trying to read her mind. Let it go and live a great life without her.

Yes but her behaviour is out of character and the last time we met up was 2 weeks ago had a lovely afternoon in a cafe and now this so until I get some sort of explanation somehow I cannot just let it go

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SunflowerTed · 09/06/2025 23:15

Why don’t you visit her house?

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PerkyOchrePeer · 10/06/2025 00:18

SunflowerTed · 09/06/2025 23:15

Why don’t you visit her house?

I don't think she would appreciate me going round and besides she goes out a lot so she probably wouldn't even be there

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