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Vivi92 · 09/06/2025 01:15

Seriously, i wonder sometimes if I am blind or I love this man too much. But I have noticed that he is toxic with me, his kids and his ex. I have heard their fights on the phone she has called him a psychopath which I see that he is one, but I prefer to stay because he can be sweet most of the time. What kind of partner leaves you with his (kids) its not their fault but those kids are not well raised. Just today he comes home angry I don't know why. I am staying away. I cannot deal with something I don't know about he doesn't communicate properly with me but he can communicate with other people respectfully. Like I have pointed out to him that I am an afterthought he doesn't respect me like a partner we live together and I learn about things after the fact. I just turn the other cheek and move on. I need advice and please be respectful. We had huge fights before I almost left him. But something kept me coming back.
I need advice.

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 09/06/2025 02:09

My advice would be fuck him right off

PrincessFairyWren · 09/06/2025 02:39

Why are you looking after your boyfriends kids?

why are you considering staying with someone that you can see is toxic?

Trust me, there will be a lot worse behaviours that he is hiding.

For goodness sakes get yourself some self esteem and walk away. Can be sweet doesn’t cut it.

Whistledown2 · 09/06/2025 04:21

Familiarity, even the awful kind keeps you coming back/staying.

Find the strength to get away from him.

he is NOT sweet ever! He’s a manipulator.

Get the hell outta there..

MiloMinderbinder925 · 09/06/2025 05:19

You say he's toxic with psychopathic traits. I would say that the only thing keeping you there is that you don't feel you deserve better. Your relationship is going to fail because you can't communicate with each other and he doesn't respect you. He also seems to have trained you to put up and shut up. You need to leave and if that feels impossible then get some therapy and work on leaving.

NCtoavoidsniggering · 09/06/2025 07:32

You know you need to leave. What is it that’s stopping you?

TwistedWonder · 09/06/2025 07:44

Its that word again- I’ve only ever heard an adult man described as ‘sweet’ when a woman then says but and then goes on to list more red flags than a communist party rally.

Why on earth would you choose to stay with a man who had no respect for you and treats you like crap just because he throws you a few crumbs?

Gettingbysomehow · 09/06/2025 07:46

Why are you in this situation?

Bananalanacake · 09/06/2025 10:37

Refuse to look after his kids.

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