Do you just’ know’ if a man likes you?

[ambergoldrecluse]

And if so , how did you know? I’m 52 and feel like I’m ready to date again after a gruesome few years .. divorce/ kids etc .
I fancy a man of my own age and when are in the same bar/ restaurant/ coffee shop , which has been perhaps twice a year this year and last, I have seen him glance in my direction and smile and say hello. He is always in a group and I always have my teen with me when this has happened.
I know he is single , that’s all I know.
am I deluded ?
if not, how should I progress? I’m simply clueless.
Inwill see him again in a couple of weeks but there will be group situations again .
thanks for reading.

Given that it sounds like he's a complete stranger at the moment, you've got to get to the 'being friendly' stage before anything else can happen anyway so I don't see that's a bad thing.

Say, "Fancy seeing you here!" or something. What's the worst that can happen? He's not going to start shouting at you, "I was happy to smile at you whenever I saw you but I have no interest in making polite chit chat with you!" is he?

Give him a big wink and if he doesn't respond, pretend there's something wrong with your contact lens. You'll know either way.

Not only all of this but finding someone attractive is nothing to feel.embarrassed about.

I've ever been a dick to someone who was interested in me if it wasn't reciprocated. Most other people aren't either.

I think you can tell if someone likes you but that doesn’t tell you if they’re free to date or what their relationship history is or even if you would get on. I would be open to it if I were you! 60 sounds old but when you get there it’s not!

Can you all stop yelling OP to say “fancy seeing you here!” No one says that FFS. OP the next time you see him just smile & say”hi how are you?” then ask him about something? Tell him you love his shoes, or something just make some small talk. Make it clear you’re happy to see him. Smile. Just chat be friendly whilst you figure him out. What is the situation you’re meeting in?

Why not ? At that age I can't see why age would even be a issue.

I'm not good at telling. If i held his gaze and he stared back, i don't know what i'm supposed to see there? He could be wonderfing what I want or why i'm looking or zoned out.

in the past I had what I thought was amazing eye contact felt butterflies thought it was love at first sight! but the guys were players who loved to flirt. So the buzz can be one sided in eye contact for me.

I think if your chap was interested he would have made a move somehow. Where there is a will there is a way.

I believe that he is under the impression that I am in a relationship so I need to quash that

So you know his age, his hobbies, that he’s single, that he thinks you’re not - so you have friends / acquaintances in common? Do you sail? Do you want to? Would it be so difficult to say that Fred / Mary/ whoever thought he’d be a good person to show you, or for Fred / Mary to suggest to him that you needed someone to introduce you to / help you improve the activity you know he’s active in?

Great advice . Yes I’ve sailed but I suck at it !od be too shy to suggest that though but thanks

Put your big girl pants on and ask for his help! We men love to be asked, if it’s something we can do reasonably well! Or even use someone else to say ‘poor Amber really wants someone to help her sail properly….’

I think the point was more that it's a good idea to speak to him and say anything. I'm sure she can find something more 'her' to say.

Fancy seeing you here is an expression that I hear and would use. It's a well known English greeting. @ChocolateGanache

I’m 63 and DH is 72. We met 32 years ago.

OTOH, Stop yelling op is not an expression i know. Maybe it's like stop willing op?

Edit oh duh you probably meant telling op! 😃