Red Flags

[beesknees1111]

I’ve been good friends with a guy for 3 years, or so I thought! He’s showed some red flags, misogyny, talk of horrific sexual acts, the way he talks about other women and I chose to ignore it I guess, but am also aware that he’s been incredibly manipulative and played the victim.
it turns out he has an entire catalogue of sexual and abusive offensives and I’ve applied for a Clare’s law report. I’m told it’s horrible reading.
i just feel so let down. Like the last 3 years are all a lie. Luckily we never got physical and I only suffered the emotional stuff. But he’s not who he claimed. Any advice welcome.

Why were you even friends with this horrible man? Run a mile is my advice!

Did you not notice something was 'off' about him ?
Run, and don't look back.

Well the only advice is to end the friendship.

That's why you should never ever ever ignore the little comments. Never think 'oh but he cares about ME'. Nope. You're a woman. He doesn't like women.

'I can no longer tolerate the way you speak about women. Your own behaviour has lost you a friend. I'm out. Never contact me again'. By text. Screenshot it once he's read it, then block him.

Never meet him in person again. Contact the police if he harasses you. Warn others women close to him. Tell them to do a Claire's law.

I did but I didn’t pay enough attention to it. Trust me, the regret is huge now! I have spoken to other women he’s known and it’s been the same. He’s hugely manipulative.
running x

Thank you. All taken on board x

Stay as far away from him as possible. Nobody needs someone like that in their life.

How you could consider someone like this as a friend is totally beyond me.

You are clearly very easily taken in, that even with talk of ‘horrific sexual acts’ you still maintained a friendship with him.

You clearly need to work on your own self esteem and boundaries.

Whilst I agree with this and am doing that. Until you have been manipulated by an absolute master of this, you won’t understand. I hope to god that never happens to you. Up until now I’d have said very similar to what you’ve said.

Which is why you work on yourself so that you are NEVER taken in by this kind of man again.

I’m sorry if my comments come across as blaming, I’m not but it’s concerning that you would put yourself at risk like this.

Agreed and I am working on this.

He’s just a mate. End the friendship.

Already done