DH staring at other women

[Justanormalsunday]

This has been an issue for quite a long time. I’ve told my DH I don’t like it when he stares at other women, I find it disrespectful and it makes me feel unattractive. I know men notice attractive women, but there’s a huge difference to glancing and maintaining a stare.
Whenever I approach the subject he either gets annoyed, or says to me he’s not staring.

It is downright rude and disrespectful to ogle women like that. Not only for you, but for them as well.

He's a lech, and in the fullness of time he will become a dirty old man.

It's totally disrespectful to you and pretty awful for the woman he is staring at.

The problem is that is the type of man he is and he won't change. Because he views women as only worthwhile as sex objects.

You can only decide whether you want to stay with a man who chips away at your self esteem and makes you question your own value.

I had a boyfriend who did this. He just laughed when I told him I didn’t like it. If we went for a meal I would scan the room before we sat down and then ensure I sat on a seat which forced him into a seat where he couldn’t see the most attractive woman in the restaurant. This was to minimize the likelihood of him looking over my shoulder all evening to ogle another woman.

i was young at the time and eventually matured enough to dump him.

He won’t change. He doesn’t see anything wrong with it. But worse than that, he doesn’t care that you do.

It’s grim but I think some men don’t even realise they’re doing it - not to condone them in any way- I hate it too. I think second glances or looking in their direction is bad enough but staring is horrible. So I’d keep saying it although he’ll likely keep denying it. You cld always ask if you have a DD whether he’d be ok with her being stared at by men? I would also tell him that while he’s maybe (??) unaware he’s doing it, women very much are & it makes them feel very uncomfortable & not complimented by it nor do they feel it’s just a necessary consequence of being attractive. It’s creepy. Or show him this thread if he doesn’t believe you!

I have one of these, it's unbearable and ime many women enjoy it and will do it back and I find this just as disrespectful so it's a hopeless cause. I generally get .. are you mad, I'm not looking, who you talking about, what woman .. so I give up

Ugh it's horrible.

I hated when I was in my 20s and I'd see some idiotic man openly gazing at me oblivious to his wife's upset. I used to feel like going over and explaining to the wife that I wasn't getting a kick out of it.

I remember one particular buffoon stopping midway through shovelling food into his mouth, I can still see him now with his fork midway to his gormless wide open mouth. Myself and his wife - tired looking, holding a newborn - locked eyes for a moment. I felt like mouthing fuck him to her.

When I met my now DH I was in my late 30s. His gaze did linger on other women quite a bit. I asked him if he realised it and how women notice, it makes them uncomfortable and I find it mildly humiliating. I told him if he wanted to behave as if he was single he could be single. I was utterly serious. Absolutely no way was I going to be sitting there patiently being ignored until he decided to bring his attention back to me. Luckily he stopped completely. It's gross behaviour.

Sorry to bump this month old thread, but I can definitely empathise. I’ve been on both sides of this situation - the young woman being stared at by an older man, his wife standing next to him and looking unimpressed (he was oblivious). I’ve also dated a man who stared at other women on occasion (now an ex).

I’m in the same boat and he refuses to change, instead, putting the blame on me for being insecure and not normal. Apparently it’s normal to be okay with this, because his mam and sister say so. What chance have I got?! If it’s not okay with me then it’s not okay.
We own a home together and have a child, so deciding if I should end the relationship isnt an easy decision to make. He won’t change. I’d run now while you can, if I like me you don’t have these other things keeping you together!

I hate this too. For me my partner is disrespectful and ive found out he cheated too.
This kinda disrespectful behaviour comes with other stuff too