So, married for 30 years, cracks really appearing. Two nights ago OH jolly comment when I asked him about how my makeup looked was “ you look like Aunt Sally , ha ha ha” that’s a character from a kids tv show , I was really upset , went upstairs rubbed make up and cried a lot. Thought about it a lot afterwards, when ever we went out ( which no longer happens) he used to look at other women and always be going to me “ oh look at her, isn’t She Good looking” . Oh works 2 days per week ( 24 hours) minimum wage, I work 37-40 well paid stressed out of my mind. He keeps banging on about he will retire in 2 years - he has bugger all pension , so that can only be achieved by my working full time. My mum isn’t well so son had stayed over with her but it’s got to much for him. So he is coming back home, would rather forego inheritance ( which will go if she has to go into care) . OH is “ well he can’t do that , think of the money” Just realised that’s all he cares about. Don’t know what to do. I suppose I’m as bad as if we separate I lose 1/2 the house etc even though I’ve paid majority for it.